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Lez Ask The Butch: Do Butches Want to be Men?
Hi Dear Butch,
About 3 months ago a co-worker of mine (very butch) told me about an incident where some guys started problems with her. I remember her saying that one of the guys told her “you want to be a man, I’ll fight you like a man”. My question is, is it about wanting to be a man or just comfort? Thanks: p.Johanna
Johanna,
I have been asked this very same question. It’s a great question, thank you for asking it.
Being butch isn’t at all about being a man, or being like a man. A butch’s clothing style and appearance is just an extension of who we are. Like anyone’s style choices.
There’s more to a butch’s clothing and appearance than just comfort. That is one aspect. I do dress for comfort. It is about saying I don’t have to dress a certain way to be seen as a woman. I can wear my steel-toed boots, blue jeans, and t-shirts. Underneath this is a woman; a woman who has breasts, hips, and a soft mouth.
I like my muscles, and short hair. It’s not about looking like a man at all or being a man. Even the butchest butch still has feminine traits. We know how to bond on an emotional level. We like to treat women as the beautiful beings they are.
I think it’s a different kind of strength than masculine. We look masculine but we are woman who wear our strength in what society sees as a male expression. We are woman who for some reason carry our strength in the way we dress, walk, talk, and be.
We are women who like having a vagina and breasts (even though some of us bind them). We enjoy the feeling of another woman’s body against ours, and love that another woman craves the feeling of our bodies against theirs.
It is about comfort in being who we are as a butch. Walking through this world embracing our own form of what feminine is to us.
Your Lez Butch
Ceara
**If you have questions ask away. They will be answered. Email askabutch@live.com.
Ceara works at a children’s home for severely abused kids. She spends her free time with her partner, reading, and writing. You can find out more about Ceara by visiting her page on MySpace.
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kickafuss
June 5, 2009 at 12:16 am
Being butch means you want the best of both worlds. If a man challenges you to a fight, you act like a man. You’re already wearing men’s clothes and adoping a mens’ stance. Don’t revert to being a woman.
Ceara
October 23, 2008 at 9:06 am
Hello all thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me and others.
JENIME–lol, I find numb-chucks useful. I do have a lot to say on men challenging women to a fight. I do plan on posting on that topic.
HIPPIEMEG–Thank-you for coming by Lez Get Real. I’m glad you liked the article.
QUEERS UNITED–I agree sometimes the line does get blurred for people who don’t know about the transgendered. That is a good point there are differences.
Ceara
Queers United
October 23, 2008 at 8:25 am
I had to explain to my friend yesterday the difference between butch women and trans-men. Sometimes the line gets blurred.
hippiemeg
October 23, 2008 at 6:23 am
Ceara, great answer! Femininity can come in many forms! Looking forward to more Q and A’s!
Meg
Jenime
October 22, 2008 at 11:28 am
I’ve always had a strict “punch anyone who asks me that in the face” policy. But you’re article has made me think. Is it right to punish ignorance with my fists?
No. I see that now.
From now on, I pledge to only tazer people who ask me that. No more than thrice.