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Lez Ask the Femme: Do all femme lesbian want to have kids?
Jess,
I am a femme lesbian, and it seems like most femmes want to have kids. I don’t want kids, so am I less of a femme?
Tracy
Tracy,
That is a great questions and a common misconception I think. Now I am a femme and I had a child, both my partner and I wanted to have a child together. I believe that it is your personal preference on whether or not you want to have children. There are many butch couples that have kids and then there are many straight couples that do not have children.
We have these labels of femme, butch, gay, straight and sometimes I think we put additional labels on of having kids or not. Just because you are a femme lesbian does not mean that you automatically want to have children, your biological clock tells you and so does your heart.
Your Femme Lez
Jess
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Jess is from Arizona, is happily married, and is a proud mom of an adorable son. For more about her check out www.2moms2kids.com.
2 Responses to Lez Ask the Femme: Do all femme lesbian want to have kids?
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Julianna
January 9, 2009 at 7:08 am
I’m a femme and my then partner wanted to make a baby more than I did. We used her very butch uterus to make our bundle.
I wanted and am delighted to have a daughter, but birthing a baby wasn’t a make or break thing for me.
drudolph
January 8, 2009 at 12:01 pm
My partner and I don’t really identify as butch or femme–we’re both more middle-of-the-road–but looking at us, you’d say she’s more butch and I’m more femme. She was the one who wanted to start our family, long before I agreed to it. Also, the lesson of Thomas Beattie, the transgender man who made headlines with his pregnancy, should caution us against associating parental desire with any particular gender expression.