Melanie Nathan: Considering Maine and Reflecting on California:
Does marriage equality and more specifically same-sex marriage hurt traditional marriage? This most confounding question has yet to be answered by anyone, especially those who expound the rhetoric while seeking to ban same-sex marriage. The derogatory impact of same-sex marriage on straight marriage has yet to be quantified. I wonder how one would be able to figure it out.
Could it be that for every 4 gay marriages one straight person will not marry his fiancé; could it be that for every 4 gay marriages one straight couple will divorce? Could it mean that allowing gay marriages will result in less straight people marrying and thereby reduce the numbers of married people? I am trying so hard to come up with a formula, can someone please help me?
Proposition 8 succeeded in California, and effectively removed a fundamental constitutional right, as endorsed by the Courts by way of popular vote – the right for any couple in California to marry regardless of gender was stripped. Prop 8 was initiated in direct response and its mantra was to “protect the institution of marriage” by keeping lesbians and gays out.
After the barrage of voracious advertisements led 51% of voting Californians to believe that gay marriage would by its mere legality threaten straight marriages. Churches poured their money into the advertising coffers, tacitly claiming the interests of their God. Silly them there is a better way to save the institution of marriage and just think it can be done without stripping other Americans of their inherent rights, as well as the advantage of quantification. The obvious, unambiguous and only one absolute vehicle to sustain the precept of marriage is clearly the “The outlawing of Divorce.” We must bring a new proposition to the voters in this earnest quest and that would be ahh maybe -Proposition 9 – “Repeal of the Legislative Right to Divorce Act.”
Notably, divorce, unlike same sex marriage, can be easily quantified. I believe in California the divorce rate is approximately 1 in 3. There you go – for every 60,000 marriages ending in Divorce, we can save 60,000 saved – see how easy that was. Not like our difficulty when we attempted to quantify the impact of same-sex marriage on ‘ traditional marriage.’ – that means we would have 60,000 out of every 180,000 marriages saved… How powerful is that!
This is a call to all those who truly believe in the sanctity of marriage. Support the rescue of marriage by ending divorce for good. Here is a safer and better plan – how about making that retroactive. Anyone who has been divorced consider your good-selves remarried.
Indeed the next obvious step is legislation that prohibits one’s right to divorce. Divorce is not an inherent right; it is one that is granted by specific statute. For example in California there would be no divorce if the Family Law Code did not deal create it. It gets worse – Divorce involves one spouse suing the other for divorce. In California the first paper served by a plaintiff spouse on a defendant spouse reads “SUMMONS- You Are Being Sued.” How bizarre – to separate church and State in this fashion. It is an abomination to the sacred right of marriage to think that after spouses have said “till death do us part” that one may sue the other for divorce and that our law allows that to happen.
If Maine supports the ban of same-sex marriage tonight, I profess this to be the nest obvious step there too.
Is this ban on Divorce a joke? Not according to a Sacramento man, John Marcotte who is collecting signatures to place a new piece of legislation on the 2010 ballot for the people of California to decide on. He wants to make it illegal to divorce in California. Read his petition here.
Why? He contends that this is a natural extension of what religious conservatives did when they voted “Yes” on a ballot measure to ban gay marriage so that they could “protect traditional marriage”.
From John Marcotte’s Rescue Marriage website, here’s the statement announcing the new ballot measure:
“I loved Proposition 8, but felt it did not go far enough. So fresh from the office of our legal counsel, I present the 2010 California Protection of Marriage Act.
SECTION 1. Title. This act shall be known as the “2010 California Marriage Protection Act.”
No party to any marriage shall be restored to the state of an unmarried person during the lifetime of the other party unless the marriage is void or voidable, as set forth in Part 2 of Division 6 of the Family Code.”
Marcotte has just launched his first couple of PSAs on the 2010 California Marriage Protection Act. Here they are:
Few Choice Quotes From the PSAs:
“My kids are being taught in school that divorce is all right.”
“You said ‘Till death do us part’. You’re not dead yet.”
“Hell is eternal, just like your marriage is supposed to be.”
“If we allow anyone to get divorced, before you know it, people will be divorcing their dogs.”
Lock Step-lock-jaw-Republicans-and conservatives- and those on the right – do not fail – put your money where your mouth is and support the BAN on DIVORCE.
Blogged by MELANIE NATHAN, CEO of Private Courts, Inc. Consulting, mediation & private advocacy ; motivated by injustice, I blog about family law/mediation, politics, news andLGBT equality and anything that ‘tickles my fancy.’ Otherwise blogging as O-blog-dee-o-blog-da. Websites and blogs include: http://www.privatecourts.com; http://www.divorcemediators.us; www.oblogdeeoblogda.wordpress.com. firstname.lastname@example.org