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Moving Video of Lesbian Binational Couple: “The Last Night Together”

09-18-2010 – Melanie Nathan:

“I wanted to tag so many others in this video but FB was being stoopid…please take a look…can’t promise it’s jolly, but I do promise it’s real.

just can’t stand that faceless bureaucrats make it so my heart gets ripped out every time she has to leave…Just want our life together!”

love to you all “

These are the parting words and the reality of the splitting of a binational lesbian couple, tonight! In love but forced to part ways because the Federal Law thanks to the Defense of Marriage Act, DOMA, compels the Immigration & Naturalization Act to exclude same-sex couples from the same rights and privileges given to heterosexual couples.

There is no law in this Country more putrid to the senses of Justice, equality and the right to live a happy life, than the one that forces a couple in love apart – where another couple who happen to be of different gender have full access to the law.

This discrimination has barely passed the starting block in the conscience of America and worse yet in the conscience of gay America.

The irony is that the Uniting American families Act  which seeks to remedy this insidious inequity has more co-sponsors in Congress than any other LGBT legislation.

If you have done nothing to further the startling glare of this inhumanity =- here under your nose- then do something now.

This Video is not a contrived produced version of the situation of binationals. It is a real life reflection of the suffering caused by discrimination against gays and lesbians in the USA and those impacted by this forced to live in exile .

Philippa and Inger Reality Check

“Our last night together and we wanted to tell you the reality of our lives:

(GO TO INGER’s Face Book Page to see Video)

The Video is on Inger’s Face Book  Page, it is not very clear and she will be sending a transcript to Lez Get Real tomorrow after her beloved has left the USA.”

Length:5:37

Philippa and Inger Reality Check

COMMENTS one of many on Face Book:

oh my loves, i cried for you both through the whole thing. it just breaks my heart that this is happening to familes all over the u.s. and especially to you, tomorrow! i hope you don’t mind if i share it with every bloody big head i can thi…nk of who could publicize, vote, or support in any way. it sure isn’t jolly, nor should it be. it’s raw and real and should be aired on the stupid tv every day and night! inger, strong mama, i love you so much and just want to wrap you in the biggest hug and promise you that it will all be okay. i can’t, but you know we all love and support you both and we will do everything in our power to change things, stop this abuse of families, and bring you two together forever. ♥♥♥See More

IF Inger’s story has moved you – Comment here below and Contact Your Congressional reps and ask what they are doing to move UAFA further.

UPDATED: Transcript of Video

Philippa and Inger Reality Check

5:37

Our last night together and we wanted to tell you the reality of our lives
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here is the transcript to the video…I just spent too long listening and re liustening so that I could get it right for you all…thank you for your love, support and interest!:
Philippa and Inger Reality Check Video Transcript

Inger speaking: Hi everyone, this is Inger and Philippa here, and we said we’d make a video and so we are. It is the last full night we will spend together for god knows how long and I for one am not coping. I don’t want this. I need everybody out there to realize that this is wrong. You all need to vote, talk to your congress people, your senators. I’m not going to give you a sermon, but it is so hard to know, that…uh… the life we share together is on the whim of a government that doesn’t even know we exist. Philippa had difficulty coming in through immigration and the U. S. border control, she was interviewed twice and got her documents taken off her which means that after waiting six and one half months the likelihood of her coming in in the next year seems pretty slim, unless there are some changes made. We’ve had a good three weeks, it’s been really wistful, but we’ve had some great times, a lot of smiles but now we are down to the wire she’s going to leave tomorrow evening and my heart’s breaking. I don’t want to keep doing this…. but I will. I’ll wait as long as I have to to be with my family. But…for those of you who are with the ones you love…treasure every minute you have. And for those of you in our same situation, contact me. We have to figure out a way to change things…this can’t keep happening. If you are in a bi-national couple, it’s worth it. It’s hard, God I know it’s hard, living on phone calls and living on web cam and living on letters and packages, planning the occasional trip, it’s difficult, but it beats a half life of living alone or settling for something other than true love. That’s my sermon. Hi Jo! I was promised..I promised that, uh, I’d say that.
(to Philippa) Anything you wanna say? Talk to the nice people (Philippa shakes her head no and continues crying) (Inger cont) We love all of you and we are so grateful for your support, and uh, we’d be in much worse shape if we didn’t have….(turning to Philippa) I love you so much…(facing forward) and I don’t ever want to be without her. (crying) We need to change the world and we can’t do it alone, I can’t do it alone, but I’m going to do everything I can. And if any of you know how to contact the people at Logos and get them interested so we can get the word out contact me on face book, on email, I’ll give you my phone number, I don’t care…SOMEBODY has to make a big deal out of this…people have to know! I spent two days at Pride talking to hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people and … I would say seventy-five percent of them had no idea, and there were a few bi-national couples who I met who were either they couldn’t make it, they couldn’t last because it’s so hard…or…they’ve gone the other way and are just flying under the wire and I don’t want to do either of those things. I want to do it right. I want to have this woman by my side, show the world that I love her…(dog whining in background) And our pug (turning away) (laughs) wants you to know that he loves his mommy and he wants her to stay with us (Oscar the pug barks in agreement) and it’s just not right. (Oscar continues to whine and Philippa and Inger turn away and back again and laugh) (Inger sniffling) We haven’t been moping the whole time but this is to be expected and so we are doing this tonight because I will be moderately hysterical tomorrow (fake smile) and uh…(dog barking) not be able to explain what I’m feeling. It’s this tight wad of anger and sadness that I’m feeling …. (breathes big sigh) I don’t know what to do…so…anyone out there who can figure it out and help me out …help us out…I’d truly appreciate it. (turning to Philippa) I get it all? (Philippa nods) (turns back to the cam) We love all of you …and we’re glad to have you in our lives (crying) I don’t know what to tell you but thank you for everything (shakes head) we’re gonna ask for more so you might as well help us so we’ll shut up. (voice breaking) Take care, all of you. Night. (cries and can’t continue)

Fin

By Melanie Nathan
nathan@privatecourts.com
@oblogdeeoblogda

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