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Lez Ask the Boi: Should I Date a Bisexual?

11/26/10  – by Riley Dylan

LGR’s boi blogger, Riley Dylan, takes your relationship questions.  This week Riley tackles a dilemma we have all faced, “To date a bisexual, or not to date a bisexual? That is the question.” That’s Shakespeare, ladies, just FYI. If you are tired of hearing the standard “Don’t hate bisexuals but don’t date bisexuals” advice, this is the column for you.

Dear Riley,

I’ve completely fallen for a girl. We’ve been seeing each other for 3 weeks and everything is going great…except my friends don’t like her. The thing is, she’s bisexual and I’m the first girl she’s been with. My friends say to stop this relationship before it starts, because she’ll just eventually leave me for a guy. Am I being stupid in thinking that this could work??

Head Over Heels

Dear Head Over Heels,

Yea, yea, watch out for those bisexuals!  They’ll always leave you for a man!  And while you’re at it, watch out for the lesbians, too… they’re going to leave you for a woman!  You picked the right boi to

ask your question, HOH.  Out of my four long-term relationships, three of my ex’s were bi, and not one left me for a dude.  If someone is going to leave you, it will most likely be because of the state of your relationship rather than the sexual orientation of either of the people in it.
I’ve heard all sorts of things about bi girls and bi-curious girls.  That they only want to play with you and break your heart.  That they’re actually lesbian and

just can’t deal with it.  Or the more ridiculous argument – that they are straight.  Lesbians really give these ladies a bad rap.  Do we want people telling us that we’re straight? I didn’t think so.  So who are we to judge how another girl feels?  We’re not in their h

earts and we’re not in their heads.  If she is attracted to you, and she’s sleeping with you, she is NOT straight.  She may not be as far over on the Kinsey scale as the rest of us, but this shiz ain’t black and white, and we all know it.  So go for it, Head Over Heels!

If you’re not pursuing something you want — whether it be a relationship, a dream, or your passion — because you’re afraid or worried about the outcome, you aren’t living.  It’s cliché, but life is just too damn short.
Best of luck!
-Riley

If you want Riley to answer one of YOUR questions, email RDylan1980@gmail.com.

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