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So, What Is It That The Anti-Gay Groups Actually Fear?

What makes hate, well, hate? Given that today is something of a quiet news day, it may be nice to give ourselves a breather and think about some things. Right now, the Family Research Council is using the attack on its headquarters as a means by which to try and shift the blame for their actions onto someone else. While what this gunman did is inexcusable, it is hard to for people to understand that hatred begets hatred and anger begets anger. Not to sound like Yoda here, but anger and hate breed suffering and pain and those cause a cycle to develop that eventually degrades into violence.

So, let us take a moment to delve into what it really means to hate someone or some group.

Right now, many Christian groups are attempting to make the case that they are being persecuted, but why? Why is it that they feel persecuted? Strip away all of the rhetoric and most of their statements come down to one simple fact- they feel threatened by the world as it is. But why are they threatened? Well, that is simple. Theocracy exists only where people are afraid that they are weak in their religious beliefs. They have doubt that their beliefs are correct.

I have met many a, what I think of as, true Christian, and had many a good conversation with them. These are not Bible thumpers or people who were actively trying to convert me. Rather they were good people who acted with kindness. They felt no sin in allowing others to have abortions, or practice birth control or be gay. They followed Christ’s teachings and felt that what was right for them was right for them. Rather than living a life trying to force people into their religious point of view or to abide by their religious beliefs, they felt that the best way to prove their religion’s correctness was to live their beliefs.

I have had a similar experience with people who I also think of as true Muslims, true Buddhists, and so forth. They live their religion rather than try to force it on others. They constantly test their faith too. It is not that they deliberately go out and sin, but rather they think about their faith. They are not afraid that they might be wrong. Rather, they face it with certainty that they might be wrong, and each time they face their fears, they come out stronger.

The problem with those who are hateful of others is that they feel threatened. They do not care about the pain that they cause others because causing pain makes them feel superior to others. This is often why bullies bully.

Back when I was in school, I was bullied. The echoes of that bullying still exist today, but rather than hating the boys who bullied me, I feel sorry for them. They felt insecure. They felt a need to lash out and make themselves seem bigger because they were terrified. The fact that I refused to fight back more than a handful of times in my life earned me a reputation as the most Christian person in my High School. I forgave rather than get angry.

Groups like the National Organization for Marriage, the Family Research Council, the American Family Association, and so forth are not out there defending marriage or the family. If they truly were, they would not be using lies in order to shield themselves. It is the fact that they need those lies in order to protect their point of view that separates them from someone who is a true believer in what they preach and a bully. It is why their entire argument boils down to just ‘I think that gay sex is icky’, and they are unwilling to listen to facts.

When you lie to defend a ‘truth’, you prove that your ‘truth’ is not worth anything. To attack LGBT Americans with proven lies shows that this truth that these groups purport to push is not a truth at all. So, my question is- why the lies? If this is just about faith, then why not just live your faith and let others live theirs? Why force others to live according to your religious beliefs?

So, let me put the gauntlet down to these groups and their followers-

What are you afraid of?



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4 Responses to So, What Is It That The Anti-Gay Groups Actually Fear?

  1. Clayton Winton

    November 25, 2012 at 12:58 am

    Bridgette, I commented on, at this addy:

    I think your article is great. So I commented as such.

    As for the “gay girl” thing, though, it’s offensive to Gays. If you’re a female homosexual, you are a “Lesbian,” not a “Gay,” otherwise you are agreeing with those who want we Gays killed, who always said that “..’gay’ is an attitude, so it can be treated, as a mental disorder, to fix it, for mental-health and spiritual healing.”

    We formed an Alliance between we homosexual men (Gays) and homosexual women (Lesbians) to define our right to exist, using the name for homosexual women you pridefully chose, and we paid for, to be “written in stone”, into law.

    Now, you are saying Gays are lesbians, and lesbians are Gays? Some of us died for you. My own blood spilled for your right to exist, pridefully.

    Aside from that, I love your article. Kind regards, always,
    Clayton Winton

    • Bridgette P. LaVictoire

      November 25, 2012 at 9:16 am


      That was put in by the last owners of the site. We’re working slowly to change the site. It’s going to take a while, but I think given our mission now, it’s outdated. While I love our logo, I think our motto needs an update.

      Thank you.

  2. Clifford W Crawford

    August 28, 2012 at 11:53 am

    As an ex-Christian myself and my opinion , I understand that religion is losing the perception of being sacred. It is now being questioned and this is the source of why they feel persecuted. The rub is that Christian believe their doctrine and hold it sacred. They don’t like it questioned. They expect others to hold it sacred as well regardless of lack of belief. (Christians falsely feel that this sacredness is need to up hold freedom of religion and to protect indoctrination/dogma). This is often expressed to me from Christians. As for me, I respect and like the religious but I will not hold any value to the bible or religion. Why? Because most people are more moral than the religious doctrines or gods they subscribe too. I do not hate the bible or religion. I simply find it comical and I reject it along with the (fatherly) subjugation it tries to enforce. Rejection is not hate. Most Christians that reject same sex-marriage do not hate gay’s. My rejection of the supernatural, bible, religion and magic is not the hate of the religious.

  3. Larry Esser

    August 27, 2012 at 6:33 am

    Writer Jamake Highwater has said that it is the insecurity and guilt feelings of many different-sex people about their own sex and sexuality that lead them to fear and condemn those of us who love our own gender–this makes them feel like they are better than us. They make us scapegoats for their “sins.”