By now, many people have read and reread the words of Rupert Everett attacking same-sex marriage and same-sex couple-headed households. Everett stated that he “can’t think of anything worse than being brought up by two gay dads… Some people might not agree with that. Fine! That’s just my opinion.”
His mother apparently has stated that “In the past, I have said that I wish Rupert was straight and, I probably still feel that… I’d like him to have a pretty wife. I’d like him to have children. He’s so good with children. He’d make a wonderful father… But I also think a child needs a mummy and a daddy. I’ve told him that and he takes it very well. He doesn’t get angry with me. He just smiles.”
There are, undoubtably, a thousand and one reactions that can be had in response to what Everett stated, but what is not likely to be said is that this is a man who blames his lack of a career on being gay. This is despite the evidence that openly gay actors have had some pretty lengthy careers. Sir Ian McKellen attended the Oscars, I believe it was, with some young man who looked half his age…sorry, a quarter of his age. The man couldn’t have been older than twenty-one.
McKellen has been out of the closet since the late 1988′s. There’s also Stephen Fry, who still has a strong career going despite being openly gay, and Neil Patrick Harris who is not only openly gay, but an openly gay father.
Everett went on to say “I’m not speaking on behalf of the gay community. In fact, I don’t feel like I’m part of any ‘community.’ The only community I belong to is humanity and we’ve got too many children on the planet, so it’s good not to have more.”
The problem for Everett is that, from what we can tell, he isn’t a very nice person. This might have more to do with why he isn’t exactly getting many jobs in Hollywood or why he’s kind of been on the outside of the Gay Community.
I certainly understand what it is like to be kind of on the fringe of the Community. Let us be honest with ourselves. While we are all part of this QUILTBAG Community, to use the mega-inclusive term, not all of us get along with each other. There’s still a lot of misogyny out of gay men and misandry out of lesbians. There’s racism as well. Gays and lesbians don’t always like trans people. We’re not so much of a Community as an Argument. My straight cousin knows more about the Community and its culture than I do. I’ve seen one episode of The L Word and don’t like a lot of other shows out there centering on lesbians.
I’m sorry, but Rupert Everett does not speak for the Community and he knows it. His career is on life support and he needs to try and bring it back and the only way he knows how is to pump up anger against him. But, you know something, maybe, just maybe, it’s time to ignore him.