We’ve all heard the saying “When it rains, it pours”. It’s often coupled and/or synonymous with Murphy’s Law: “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong”. Is this because some higher power has it out for us, or is this something we manifest through a series of negative thoughts?
While some love to lean on the theory that there is a higher power controlling every minute thing that happens to every single one of the 7 billion people on this planet (and I must admit, it IS tempting to blame something else for the crap heap I find myself in from time to time), I lean more towards the spiral of negative emotions we ourselves create.
You see, when we have a negative thought, it puts everything surrounding that thought into a negative light. This creates more negative thoughts, and the while situation snowballs till everything is negative. When you feel negatively about something, your reactions will reflect that. The more angry, sad, or fearful thoughts we have, the more angry, sad, or fearful our actions will be, causing things to happen that cause your original emotion. Following that theory, if we could find a way to change those negative thoughts into positive ones, bad things would stop happening to us.
I know what you’re thinking: “Jess, you can’t possibly expect me to have a positive outlook on my computer being repossessed on the same day that my paperwork is due, my truck breaks down, and the dog chews up everything else that I own while I’m out trying to fix the first two problems.” And you’re right. I can’t expect that. However there’s a difference between positive thinking and delusional self affirmations.
For example: instead of “I can’t fix this, it’s out of my control”, you change that thought to “This problem is out of my control, therefor I will worry about what I can fix… Something that IS within my control”, find a project, one you can complete. OR you can simply look at the other side: “It’s a beautiful day, so now that the truck is broken, I have an excuse to enjoy the sunshine.”
If that doesn’t work, try changing your tampon, looking at a cute puppy, or taking a quick smoke break… If none of these things work, you may want to commit yourself. Just remember, in the end you only have yourself to blame for your negative reactions to negative things. Maybe being self delusional isn’t as bad as you think.
For further instructions on leveling your stress on your own, try reading my previous article,“Low(ering) Anxiety“, for tips