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Hospital Handcuffs Gay Man Wanting To See Sick Partner

Research Medical Center

Research Medical Center

Roger Gorley was handcuffed and forced to leave the hospital bedside of his boyfriend of five years after refusing to leave because a member of Allen’s family was already there and refused to allow Gorley to see the man he had spent five years of his life with. According to Roger, he and Allen have joint power of attorney, which would trump the family’s right to refuse Roger entry. He said “I was not recognized as being the husband, I wasn’t recognized as being the partner. She didn’t even bother to go look it up to check into it. He’s been at the psychiatric unit part several times.”

The incident happened at Research Medical Center in Kansas City, Missouri. The hospital went one step further and filed a restraining order against Roger to prevent him from entering the hospital.

The hospital claims that it does not discriminate based on sexual orientation, but without commenting on the specific case, claims that “We believe involving the family is an important part of the patient care process. And, the patient`s needs are always our first priority. When anyone becomes disruptive to providing the necessary patient care, we involve our security team to help calm the situation and to protect our patients and staff. If the situation continues to escalate, we have no choice but to request police assistance.”

The hospital could face actions similar to the kind that other hospitals have faced in the wake of such discrimination as it was Allen’s family member who started the problem, not Roger.

In 2010, the Obama Administration informed all hospitals that, if they receive Medicare and Medicaid, they had to allow patients to determine who has visitation rights and who can make medical decisions, and this included the LGBT Community.

Apparently someone at the hospital didn’t get the memo.



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3 Responses to Hospital Handcuffs Gay Man Wanting To See Sick Partner

  1. Reverend Joseph Shore-Goss

    April 11, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    I bet they did not remove the “Family member” who had no right to be there…the hospital created the hostile situation and then attacked the gay member of the family. I hope they are sued and they end up owning the place.

  2. Gretchen

    April 11, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    That “hospital” probably has one single bed and some redneck idiot with a “diploma” that he got out of a gumball machine.

    I hope the couple sues this place, and wins BIG. There was NO reason for the hospital’s behavior, plain and simple. Why didn’t they humiliate, handcuff, and arrest the so-called “family member” who was being the jerk in not allowing the legal PARTNER to be with his partner?

  3. Marc

    April 11, 2013 at 3:44 pm

    UPDATE: 4/11 3:14 p.m. — Research Medical Center responded to the allegations in a Facebook post on Thursday afternoon.

    This was an issue of disruptive and belligerent behavior by the visitor that affected patient care. The hospital’s response followed the same policies that would apply to any individual engaged in this behavior in a patient care setting and was not in any way related to the patient’s or the visitor’s sexual orientation or marital status. This visitor created a barrier for us to care for the patient. Attempts were made to deescalate the situation. Unfortunately, we had no choice but to involve security and the Kansas City MO Police Department.
    The hospital also denies it ever filed a restraining order against Gorley.