Ravens linebacker Brendon Ayanbadejo spoke today about Jason Collins’ coming out. Ayanbadejo’s comments get to the heart of the problem with how homosexuality is viewed. While there are men like, say, Erwin “EJ” Johnson III who tends to be rather effeminate, gay men like Collins tend not to be.
Ayanbadejo appeared on Meet The Press, and one of the things he wanted to discuss was not only the need to reform the hyper-masculine nature of sports, but also the view that gay men are all effeminate.
People think gayness has something to do with femininity when really we just need to erase that stereotypes from our minds. LGBT people come in all different types and shapes and forms. So I think that’s really what we’re fighting. But the beautiful thing about what Britney Griner did, it barely made a splash. That’s what we’re trying to do in men’s sports when people announce they’re gay. We don’t want it to change the climate in sports. We want everybody to be accepted and people can go out there and love who they want to love and be who they are so they cannot only be better people but they can also be better athletes.
He also wanted other gay athletes to come out as well, and encouragingly said “When an athlete does come out they’ll have a supportive group around them.”
It has always been a common misconception that homosexual men are effeminate. Unfortunately, this has tended to make gay men coming out in sports difficult due to the tendency to perceive gay men as being weaker than straight men.