7/27/2011

Gaga and Midler in feud?  How did that happen??

Bette Midler became one of the biggest female talents on the face of the earth when she first performed her cabaret act at famed gay men’s club, The Continental Baths, in the 70′s with piano accompaniment from Barry Manilow.  Lady Gaga Became one of the biggest female talents on the face of the earth when she released her first album, The Fame, in 2008.  What else do these lovely ladies have in common?  They have now both pulled out a character that can only be explained as a swim-impaired mermaid with a lack of water.

When Gaga revealed her wheelchair toting mermaid character, Yuyi, at a performance in Sydney, Australia, Midler was not the happiest person.  She was upset at the thought that someone was using, and copying, an act that she has perfected by performing for more then 20 years as wheelchair toting mermaid, Delores DeLago.

“I’ve been doing singing mermaid in a wheelchair since 1980,” Midler said in a livid response, “You can keep the meat dress and the firecracker tits–Mermaid’s mine.”

Gaga responded with timeliness.

“I had no idea that she did that and I’m a huge Bette Midler fan.” Gaga explained after hearing the accusations, “It was not a Midler tribute in the beginning…because I didn’t know that she’d done it, but I do now and I think it’s great.  Obviously I feel connected to women in theater and women from the past.”

Gaga also added, “Maybe we’re just cut from the same cloth.  I couldn’t hop around in that tail so I just stuck myself in a wheelchair.  All I’ll say is that I admire her and find her to be one of the most brilliant and incredible performers, so that’s all I’ll say.”

via http://bust.com/blog/2011/07/12/would-you-wear-a-steve-buscemi-dress.html

14 July 2011
by Bridgette P. LaVictoire

What in the name of all that is holy are these fashion designers smoking. The notion that some woman wants to wear a dress- in color- splashed with the face of Steve Buscemi all across it larger than life is not only baffling, but, somehow leaves a rather bad taste in the mouth. Let us be honest, though, this is hardly the worst monstrosity to come out of the fashion industry over the last decade or more. After all, there are so many people who seem to design things that make one look more like they walked off the set of Doctor Who circa 1970 rather than out of real life.

What is more, while Buscemi is a decent actor, he is not exactly the prettiest face in the world.

One has to wonder just why this designer would choose to put Buscemi’s face on a dress that, well, gets to go over some of the most attractive parts of a woman’s body…namely all of it. Ugh, and this is what people think should be worn?

I live here in Vermont, give me practical. While I may love wearing skirts and dresses, I’m happier with simple colors (preferably purple), rugged, keeps me warm in winter, cool in summer, and won’t get caught on things. Furthermore, I’d rather not have to try and slink into a dress like that. Vermonters want practical. In fact, most women want practical. They don’t want dresses that are designed to make splashes like this, or cause a stir. For that matter, one has to wonder just what kind of woman or man would go for a woman wearing the face of a man across her body?

Let us just go ahead and say that the creator of this dress should just start discounting it right now, and prepare to do what he needs to in order to destroy them.

However, the model is lovely to look at, if she’s your ‘type’.

Summer is in full swing, so what better way to celebrate the season than by spritzing on a flowery scent? Lately, floral designs have been popping up on everything from sunglasses to rompers, so it makes perfect sense that the biggest names in fashion are creating perfumes to match. Here are three fragrances that will leave you smelling better than a blooming garden – even if you live in a city of concrete.

Hello, Jasmine! You’ll want to stay with this luscious scent for so much longer than your summer fling.

Diorissimo Eau de Parfum, $77.00 (1.7 oz), Dior.com

This instant mood-lifter is perfect for days spent stuck behind a desk at work (when you just want to frolic on the grass!). The flowery mix is refreshingly sweet, yet subtle enough to not be overwhelming.

Clinique Happy, $42.50 (1.7 oz), Clinique.com

Leave it to Burberry to create a fragrance perfect for the butch woman. The citrus and floral combination has a tinge of white musk and spice, making this scent crisp and woodsy.

Burberry Touch Eau de Toilette, $57 (1.7 oz), Sephora.com

7/7/2011

Most people know how controversial the world of child beauty contests can be.  The Learning Channel‘s Toddlers and Tiaras reveals to the world what parents will do to help their child succeed in the ruthless world of beauty and competition.  Sometimes the show is extremely hard to watch, because some of the things the parents put their children through are harsh and cruel.  However, most episodes show how dedicated the children really are when it comes to competitions like this.  Some of them actually love the spot light, and the work, including a 7 year old boy who loves to compete up on stage with the girls.

Last night, on the premier of the latest episode, the show introduced self-described “diva” Brock Ritter.  According to his mother, Tori Ritter, he became interested in pageants at the age of 2, and when expressing his dream at the age of 5 was bullied by fellow students.

“We dealt with it in kindergarten,” Tori explains during an interview on E!. “A couple of boys in his class said dancing was a girls thing. It took the teacher telling them that football players take ballet for them to understand.”

During the E! interview Tori talked about her son very proudly.

“He loves school, he loves to read,” She said.  She also explained that he is currently in a “hardcore” advanced reading program that has him reading way beyond his age group.

He is also a “tap dancing machine,” she explained, “I asked him ‘What kind of dance do you want to do?’ and he said tap. He’s been dancing for six years now.”

As anyone would ask, where is the father in all of this, and how does he feel about it?  Well according to Tori, Dad is the one mixing and cutting all the music Brock dances to, and his routines are a family affair.  “We don’t work with a coach, we play around at home.”  She said.

Brock has already become a pro at dance and gymnastics, and has earned a half dozen first-place trophies.  He also dreams of performing on stage on Broadway one day.  He even makes up his own routines and songs at home according to Tori.

“He’s not your typical kid.”  She explained.

Have you ever been tempted to head to work in a pair of shorts on a blisteringly hot summer day? If you have, I’m right there with you. After all, it doesn’t get easier than slipping into a cool pair of cutoffs that go with just about anything in your closet.

We dreamers are in luck: somehow, the once uptight office style gods have loosened up -and employees everywhere are finally cooling down.

Done right, shorts can be a stylish addition to your workplace gear. Just be sure to pair them with a crisp button down or blouse and your usual dress shoes.

Meet your new summer fling: these shorts come in a variety of sizes and are very professional-looking. But they already had me at the price.

Luxe Stretch Notch-Back Shorts, $29.99, Express.com

While their name may suggest otherwise, these linen Bermudas belong anywhere but the sand. Butches, femmes, and everyone in between can add these to their cubicle wear.

Ralph by Ralph Lauren Jodie Linen Bermuda Shorts, $71.40, LordandTaylor.com

Don’t be caught with these on your short list:

-Daisy Dukes or any other type of super-short shorts. Those belong only in the Dukes of Hazzard or on the sand.

-shorts so loose they look like they’ll be around your ankles in .05 seconds. Despite what your girlfriend tells you in the bedroom, we would rather not see your underwear at the next business meeting.

-flip flops. They’re never appropriate in any office, anywhere. Need we say more?

Tip:

If you’re unsure whether your boss will approve of you donning a pair, look around you. My office is young, creative, and very trendy; the shorts craze has already caught on over here. But if suits and ties are the norm, you should probably save your shorts for the weekend.

It’s hard not to love the maxi dress. Add one to your wardrobe and you’ll have a go-to, perfectly pulled together outfit in seconds.

Since lengthy dresses are on the racks everywhere from Forever 21 to Marc Jacobs this season, you’re bound to find a winner without having to go through the stress of multiple shopping trips.

Lesbian fashionista and Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon has been spotted rocking the maxi dress on more than one occasion.

Best of all, they come in a seemingly endless number of prints, so you’ll be hard pressed to find style copycats strutting the streets in your getup. Here are four maxi dresses we can’t wait to get our hands on:

Nautical Stripes Maxi Dress, $14.50, Forever21.com

Annie Maxi Dress by Love, $36, Topshop.com

Element “Garland” Floral-Print Maxi Dress, $54.50, Bloomingdales.com

Marc Jacobs Rex Tiered Low-Back Maxi Dress, $358, Bergdorfgoodman.com

Tip:

If you’re on the short side, wedges will give you instant height and make your legs look longer. So, don’t be afraid to scoop up a maxi!

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06/03/2011- by Natasia Langfelder

Mega-retailer and my personal favorite place to shop, Macy’s is celebrating Pride Month in a big way this year. Macy’s has dubbed the celebration, which will include events and sales, Pride + Joy.

Macy’s released a press statement saying:

“Macy’s is proud to recognize and honor our LGBT employees and customers during Pride Month with our nationwide Pride + Joy campaign. These festive celebrations and community initiatives showcase our steadfast commitment to inclusiveness in all aspects of our business,” said Corliss Fong, Macy’s vice president of diversity strategies. “During Pride Month and throughout the year, we will remain committed to supporting the LGBT community through a variety of initiatives including our long-standing partnership with the Human Rights Campaign.” [Source]

Macy’s will also be holding events all over the country. The events range from fashions shows and same-sex friendly registry booths to celebrity events with Olympic Skater Johnny Weir, Miss Lawrence from Real Housewives of Atlanta and Pandora Boxx and Alexis Mateo from Rupaul’s Drag Race. These are such awesome celebs to include as they really challenge the traditional rules of gender and are not “family friendly.” Johnny Weir was even excluded from a national ice skating tour because of his deemed “not family friendly” status. So it’s great to see a large mainstream corporation embracing these individuals. Especially when Urban Outfitters and Target have been caught donating money to homophobic politicians. Yes, I know no celesbians were included, but I’ll let that one slide. Hopefully we can get one in next year.

So go to the events! It’s a great place to feel comfortable shopping and to meet other gays. Who knows? Make some eye contact with a cutie and you might even score a date. For a listing of all the events in your area visit: www.macys.com/events.

For more info on their Pride celebration check out www.macys.com/pride

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It’s summer, the season that exists solely for the reason to ogle women who are wearing less clothes. I guess that’s why I’ve gotten so many bra questions from my lovely readers lately. I’m sooo not complaining.

Via Frederick's of Hollywood

Let’s get down to the dirty dirty:

Dear Natasia,

I’m a big girl. Okay, I’m not a big girl but I have big “girls.” It’s rough for me to find a bra that’s cute and sexy. Most of the bra’s around for D size boobs are plain. Victoria’s Secret has really cute bras but they are kinda out of my price range. Do you know where I should shop to get reasonably priced but sexy bras?

-Boobilicious

Hi Boobilicious,

Thanks for writing in! Let me tell you when to shop at Victoria’s Secret, once during the summer and once during the winter. That is when they have their semi-annual sales. Bras that go for $60 a pop will be on sale for $15. The only problem with these sales is that there is no guarantee they will have the size or the style that you want. But most women will be able to find something they like for a great price. Check out the Victoria’s Secret website for more details: www.victoriassecret.com

I also recommend that you check out Frederick’s of Hollywood. This is one of my favvvvvv stores for cute, sexy, affordable pieces. The blue bra pictured is $34, but if you buy two at a time they are only $26. How awesome is that? Shop full figured bras here: http://www.fredericks.com/

If you are comfortable shopping online, you can check out www.DivaBras.com A few of DivaBras products were one of Oprah’s favorite things, so I’m pretty sure that means they are worth checking out. They offer pretty, if not over the top sexy, feminine bras for under $40.

You can also always go with the old standard, Wonderbra. The classic look is totes in right now.

Good luck with your search! Send me some pictures when you find what you’re looking for!

Have a question for me? Email me at askafemme@yahoo.com

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Old Navy has decided to turn it up a notch on all those anti-LGBT haters by releasing a special line of Pride wear for those that love rainbows, equality and PRIDE.

Rainbow Goodness

The new rainbow-themed line will have four designs in all the sizes Old Navy has to offer (women, men and babies). Pricing will range from $7.50 – $14.50 (have to love Old Navy prices), so you can buy every shirt to complete your fabulous summer wardrobe.

Gone are the days when you had to go to a more “upscale” store to purchase LGBT themed clothing with a price tag to match. It is nice to see a recognizable clothing company step out promoting quality.

To those who are fans of Dan Savage and his “it Gets Better” project, 10% from each shirt sold will go towards the organization. Although, I am not a big fan of Savage by any means – I do love to flaunt my gayness when I can – so I will be sure to pick one of these up for Pride this year.

The rest of the shirt designs can be seen here.

It’s wedding season! Gay, straight or otherwise you are probably gearing up to attend someone else’s special day. Or maybe you are thinking of planning your own big event? Or daydreaming about the hot barista and planning a wedding before she even knows your name? Here are some of the top trends that the gays are employing into their nuptial celebrations so your big day doesn’t turn into a “My Big Fat Gay Wedding” disaster:

1. Destination Weddings

This trend used to be called “eloping” or “We’re going to Canada where it’s legal” but Destination Wedding sounds so much sexier, doesn’t it? Why is this trend popular? Because there is a one in 10 chance that you live in a state where same-sex marriage is legal, so most of us are going to be traveling for our big day so make it fabulous! Don’t sneak away by yourselves, hire a planner or quit your job and devote yourself to planning your big day in an exotic locale. Iowa, the gay-friendly state that could, is reporting a boost in tourism directly related to same-sex weddings. Giving back to a community that has recognized our rights is a great way to celebrate your love! Plus, I hear the corn is as high as an elephant’s eye there…or something like that.

2. Joint Bachelor/ette Parties

File this one under Best. Trend. Ever. Joint Bachelor and bachelorette parties mean that the wedding isn’t going to be called off because someone got drunk and accidentally groped a stripper. If you can party with your spouse-to-be you avoid all the drama, hurt feelings, jealousy and anxiety that live hand-in-hand with these bashes. Or you can sleep with the stripper together! Whatever works.

3. Furry Flowergirls and Ring Bearers

I know lesbians, we love our pussycats but maybe putting them in our wedding ceremonies is crossing the line? Apparently, the answer is no. Cats in tophats and dogs in bridesmaid dresses are taking over the internet. I for one, am guilty of following this trend. My 3 pound Yorkie wore lilac silk to my wedding. The only rule to remember when putting your pooch in the nuptial line of fire is be kind. Make sure you have someone to put your pet someplace safe once the festivities are underway and make sure they have food and water. Plus, keep any animal tormenting children far, far away.

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4. Same-sex Wedding Cake Toppers

Cute and kitch, many LGBT couples are opting to put two little Grooms or two little Brides at the top of their cakes. Wedding cake toppers have gone out of style among the hetero set, with outrageously priced and fondant sleek cakes being the norm. However, if you are queer- go ahead and shout it from the top of your cake!

5. Green Weddings

No, I’m not talking about color schemes, I’m talking saving the earth! Gays love a good trip down altruism lane and we have led the charge when it comes to environmental friendliness. When I got married last September, we contracted with a printer that used all recycled paper. This meant that our save-the-dates, invitations, menus, place cards and thank-you notes were all green! We also used a party bus to shuttle people to and from their hotels, that really cut down on the CO2 emissions and let our guests get as drunk as they wanted! Totally a win-win for all involved.

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too big for the limo?

Well, we have no idea who made the winning bid, but Princess Beatrice’s hat from last month’s Royal Wedding has been sold for $131,341.47 on E-Bay.

The Phillip Treacy creation has had a great run as one of the best millinery jokes of all times. We are all waiting to see what the new owner plans to do with this piece of Royal history. The hat, along with sister Princess Eugenie’s lopsided-hem outfit, has been blamed for the Queen removing the 24/7 bodyguards from her wayward granddaughters. Her Majesty was not amused by the diversion these girls’ fashion non-sense provided on Wedding Day. Her Majesty is rarely amused when members of her family can be parodied, satirized, lampooned and giggled upon with such ease, and a half-decent knowledge of PhotoShop.

The proceeds of the auction will go to “Little Bea’s” favorite charities. No, not her mother the terminally fiscally-stressed Fergie, but Unicef and Children in Crisis.

And I apologize for initially describing this valuable and expensive designer creation as a hollowed-out teddy bear. At approximately four times the height of the Coronation Crown, it was clearly a bow. Just blame it on Ascot Gavotte Shock – too many utterly British racing meet hats for one morning. Come on – it was what, 5 a.m.? I’m not used to seeing hats like those without thoroughbreds behind them. Horses, that is. Speaking of bows – wouldn’t it have been fun if any of these outrageous hats had had to curtsey to Her Majesty the way the bride did?

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With the confirmation of Osama Bin Laden’s death, Americans all around the country have a renewed sense of patriotism as they celebrate. Bin Laden’s death has also renewed Americans love of making a quick dollar off of a serious matter.

Pastry T-Shirits

Enter Angela and Vanessa Simmons, owners of Pastry – a clothing/shoe company that they own. After the official word from President Barack Obama that one of the biggest proponents of the “War On Terror” was brought to justice, they wasted no time in trying to come up with a way to make a buck.

The quickly unveiled a special – “collector’s edition” t-shirts featuring America’s most hated terrorist. With shirts featuring Bin Laden’s face with slogans such as “Wanted Dead or Alive” and “Rest In HELL Osama Bin Laden“, shines a harsh light on one of the problems in America’s culture. Our need to always make a buck off of anything imaginable. Even though, we should be happy that Bin Laden is dead, when do you cross over from celebratory to predatory? With the recent pictures of people in both NYC and DC celebrating (which, seemed almost frat-like in mentality) to this recent escapade by the Simmons sisters that was conveniently debuted moments after Obama’s speech last night – when will we learn as a country that not everything needs to be monetized.  Do you really have to exploit the death of an infamous terrorist to make a buck? It is tacky, at best – even though, I’m sure they’ll make money off of this venture.

No word on what their father, esteemed hip-hop MC, Reverand Run has to say about this idea; even though, this sounds like something right up their uncle Russell Simmons alley.

Finally! A spring 2011 trend that femmes and studs can rock! Strap on your peg leg, get your mind out of the gutter and come listen to a tale of sailor themed stripes. This look wears the best when it is loose and casual. The ‘basic’ for this trend is a striped tee, pictured right. But designers are mixing it up for this season. If you wear it too tight and you aren’t super petite you could end up looking like a boat. Don’t say I didn’t warn you! Here are some tips to do this trend right:

For the Bois: Pair this t-shirt from Old Navy (aren’t you lucky that this trend won’t break your bank) with either loose dark wash jeans, khakis or sexy white pants. Only do a black pant if the stripes on the shirt are black, not navy blue. You can layer a navy blue, black or eggplant blazer over it to complete the look.

For the Grrls: I love this Victoria Secretoff the shoulder nautical tee. Pair it with wide leg trousers or jeans with a super high heel. I know some of you only feel sexy when your clothes are tight and show off some skin, but keep the shirt loose! The stripes will actually make you look smaller if the top is loose. Feel free to go as tight as you want with the pants!

For the Bold: Personally, I’m going to rock this Urban Outfitters striped bandeau top this summer.I’m going to pair is with a white or floral mini and nude platforms. If you’re an edgy stud, pair this top with khakis or board shorts. Why not? It’s the perfect outfit for cruising girls on the boardwalk.

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Burberry is offering a beautiful pair of purple glasses that are such a dark hue you can wear them on your way to the boardroom. They are also more likely to stay in style for a few seasons if you opt to go this route, because they are so understated. They will also match with anything.

Now onto FUNKY. Every brand is offering a pair of glasses, so you have a ton of options. Most of the glasses are offering bright purple, plastic frames that will cover half your face and hold back your hair in a pinch. Personally, I went for a bright purple pair that is translucent, like this pair from Salvatore Ferragamo.

I plan on wearing them with floral print dresses and mini skirts paired with thigh high stockings or knee socks. Also, don’t be afraid to clash and pair your purple sunglasses with red. Yes, I’m giving you permission to mix purple and red. The most contrast between your glasses and your outfit the better! Don’t be afraid to experiment, girls! Happy sunning!

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Natasia Langfelder

 Every girl loves flowers, but do you want to wear them on your feet? Designers this season are going out on a ledge and saying, ‘yes.’ This trend is very feminine so it might not be the best fit for everyone. They are also really a daytime look and won’t transition from work to the club. But if you want to unleash your inner princess, these shoes are a fun way to go!

 When you wear a floral print shoe, make sure you pair it with a simple outfit. For a professional look with an edge that you can rock at work, pair these shoes with a pair of black, white or tan capris, a solid color t-shirt and a fitted jacket. For a flirty day look, they would also be great with a solid color or two tone dress. Liiiiike this babydoll pink dress from the Akira Black Label. This is totally a great first date look, you will knock her socks (or Doc Martens) off.

There are also a ton of options for the shoe itself. You can find floral print shoes with a wedge, stacked heel, kitten heel, platform, peeptoe. Don’t settle for the first shoe you see, don’t buy something unless you love it! Happy spring!

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 Alright ladies, it’s officially spring, so put away OPI’s Lincoln Park After Dark and start trying out this seasons sexy new trends.

 Purple

Sparkly purple is the breakout color this spring and purple is the color of queer, so I couldn’t be happier! Ever since Jennifer Lopez appeared on American Idol with sparkling violet nails, women on the small screen and on the street have been wearing this color like crazy. Personally, I love Essie. So I’m recommending Sexy Divide. If you are more of an OPI girl, go for Houston We Have a Purple from their new Texas line. Ladies, show the straight girls how to rock this color.

Taupe

 This is a trend for the super-fashionistas out there. If you aren’t serious about your fashion, then don’t go here. Very few women can pull off this sandy color, it can look muddy if you pick the wrong shade for your skin tone. If you want to go this route, have your manicurist try on a few different shades and pick the one you want. Also, don’t wear taupe nails with sneakers. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

The Classics

Spring is a great time of the year to start wearing corals and pastels. You can’t go wrong with Essie classics like Angel Food and Ballet Slippers. These colors are around every year for a reason. Also, it’s harder to see the chips, so your manicure will last a litttttttle bit longer!

Happy painting ladies!

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It’s spring!…ish! Women and the retail stores that love them are gearing up for the change in the weather. This season, retailers are trying to lure in lovely ladies with the promise of a butterfly dress. Cavalli has one for $660 and Neiman Marcus can give you wings for $858. However, after doing some all important field research at Macy’s, H&M and Forever 21, I’m here to tell you there are cheaper options.

This trend is beautiful and feminine and you definitely want to get on board, but I’m also predicting this trend won’t survive past 2011. So skip the expensive pieces, a butterfly dress will never be a “basic” piece. (For those of you who are just starting to build your wardrobe, a basic is a staple in your closet that you can mix and match for a few years. You want these pieces to be high quality. ex. a little black dress is a great splurge)

So indulge in the butterfly trend, if you want to go middle of the road head to Macy’s for dresses in the 50-100 range. If you want to spend around $25-20 head to H&M or Forever 21. Those stores are also good options if you want to break up the look by purchasing separates. Like, if you only want butterflies over your boobs and not your lady bits, Forever 21 has a bunch of cute options. Pair a butterfly print with wedge sandals, preferably platform and brown or nude based. Happy shopping, ladies!

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Mr. Gay World 2011 - Francois Nel, South Africa

CAPE TOWN – The South African LGBTI community is ecstatic -  Francois Nel, Mr. Gay South Africa has won Mr. Gay World today!  He also helped secure South Africa, Johannesburg as the 2012 location for Mr. Gay World. This is the second year in a row that Mr. Gay World has been a South African.

How did I know that Francois would do his Country proud ?  I met Francois, Mr. Gay South Africa, in Cape Town the week before he left for the Pageant in Manila, socialized with him,  mutual friends and activists and had the great pleasure of spending an afternoon alone, interviewing him and sharing our thoughts and ideas about the state of LGBTI in South Africa and the Continent.

We published my lengthy interview with him last week and found that his personality, commitment to social justice and compassionate activism far outweighed his physical magnificence- hard to beat!

A small excerpt from our chat:

If we look at our past it has been very eventful  - we have moved truly toward s being a rainbow nation  – a Mecca of different cultures and societies. Look at soccer world cup – what we embody as a nation is so unique to us and we have a constitution that most other competing countries do not have – that includes gender ID and Sexual orientation so I feel my ambassadorship is critical in this competition.

I am very excited to work with like minded individuals from all over the world. It is as much about our unity as it is about the competition itself.

We all want to educate about being gay, Lesbian, transgender and bisexual. We all want to show how it is to be open…

We want 2012 to be on African continent and I hope we can bring it here…..” read more  Interview with Mr. Gay South Africa on his Way to Manila for Mr. Gay World (lezgetreal.com)

And Indeed he did it!!

By Melanie Nathan
nathan@privatecourts.com
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Congratulation from the GALS et al, at LezGetReal

Mr. Gay World, Francois Nel & Melanie Nathan

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Mr. Gay South Africa Photo by Mel Nathan - Copyright

CAPE TOWN - Francois Nel has a face that could launch a thousand gay bars – and a body that makes the Trojan horse look like a Shetland pony!  His is one you will see headlines this week in many a gay publication and if you read this interview you will see why he deserves your vote, as the All inclusive South African Constitution makes him the GLOBAL ambassador for LGBT  human rights and marriage equality.

I had the luxury of a special afternoon – we met at Cape Town at the Cape Royale – in my hotel suite – where the shjoosh  (old South African word for fancy) ambiance soon  fell victim to our comfortable familiarity – the context of our special day – where we would both be proudly asserting our messages at Cape Town Pride’s Pink Gala. So after the interview we indulged in practicing our speeches – by performing them for each other. AND that was fun!

I had one up on Francois – because I was going to be the main speaker, while he was only going to give a small introduction – but hey – talking one up – I challenge you lesbian, gay, transgender, intersex folk out there to find anyone more stunning in face, physique, heart and soul!! AND what an Interviewee – eloquent, profound and most sure of what he has to say!

That is why Francois is Mr. Gay South Africa and that is why he should win Mr. Gay World.

The Interview:  (remember English is Francois’ second language.)

What made you get into Mr. GAY  South Africa:

FN: Mr .Gay South Africa was something that happened at a time when I am approaching the big 30 – 30 is a milestone and I got involved in self reflection. I thought back over the years  about my life and the story I have lived  up until now –  certainly felt that I was reflecting back on the issue of sexuality – and how it was for me and it’s a story that if I share I can show the world how natural a story it can be.

I was always confident and aware of my inherent sexuality. Always aware of my inherent sexuality I have always known since I can remember that I am attracted to the same gender as myself.

The way I felt about being attracted to other men seemed to stand in contradiction to what the world wanted   me to do and entering a competition like MR. GAY SA is about speaking out about this –  as an issue. I wanted to use my personal story to inspire others to deal with acceptance of the natural nature of being gay.

I want to inspire younger people not to waste a lot of years  afraid of their homosexuality – not to be scared of their natural inherent desires  Especially those in societies where they are  taught that it is wrong.  In South Africa we lucky  because our Constitution is protective of us – but still a lot of work needs to be done at ground level.

A lot of perceptions need to change about what homosexuality is about – it is natural and people need to know!

No one wakes up one morning deciding to be different or live in a way that society does not accept – for me it is my natural way of being – and if others feel the way I did growing up then the message is the same for them. Why waste time waiting to feel better.  You are good as you are now!

MEL:  What do you recommend to youngsters who are uncertain about coming out – Should they go to an organization for help in coming out or  come out to parents right away?

FN: It depends – all situations are unique and different. There is no rule for this.   Family dynamics are different and individuals differ just as our stories do.  The real answer  is that  homosexuality (LGBTQI) Should be more socially accepted by the society at large  - then it would be easier to come out. That is what must change.  At the end of day we should be more socially accepted

Sexuality is not an all encompassing reflection of who we are as human beings; we are  multi faceted as gay or straight people! Sexuality does not define heterosexuals. We have a wide variety of characteristics and interests – As gay s we have to keep explaining who we are – why we are gay- we seem to have a lot of explaining to do.

With heterosexuality they have what is supposed to be the norm and there is not explaining to be done.

For me it is normal – its my norm – its always been normal for me – I can focus on the natural part of myself and hope to help others to do the same.

MEL:  If you were to win Mr., Gay World next week,  and I hope you do because you are an imperative and necessary  ambassador,  especially  because of SA’s unique positioning and  Constitution – would you speak out about decriminalization of homosexuality in Africa

With the Gay Flag from CASTRO that was auctioned for $10,000 with Signatures of US activists including MEUSA's Molly McKay and Dan Choi ; Mel Nathan & MEUSA©

FN Certainly -because we must be involved in activism – it comes back to fact that in SA  we are  lucky  we have legal rights to back us up if discriminated against.  That’s not to say there is NO discrimination –  there still is…

Having title of MR. GAY WORLD will extend my time to work on who we are for the world to see  - Education is something I am incredibly  passionate about and who we are.  My sexuality is like my skin color. I must show it and should not have to explain it – it is my normative and I hope I can transgress the explanations to simply show all the facets of my being; but I will speak to that as an issue anyway.

As well as the education of safe sex – lot of focus on belief systems – some speak to abstinence – safe sex is imperative and abstinence is a dangerous waste of educational resources because people are going to have sex anyway.

Education in schools we should be first taught about the different sexual contexts and sexualities that exist and then we should talk about the applicable safe sex

My own education in safe sex was not enough.  I was lucky because I worked in medical field so I was very aware.  I am blessed – as I worked with a doctor who worked with HIVAIDS

MEL: What are they are going to expect of you when you go to Manila on Monday in the Competition?

FN: It is an international beauty pageant and so much more. It seeks an ambassador from every country – I for example I am proudly South African and so am able to represent my country.

If we look at our past it has been very eventful  - we have moved truly toward s being a rainbow nation  – a Mecca of different cultures and societies. Look at soccer world cup – what we embody as a nation is so unique to us and we have a constitution that most other competing countries do not have – that includes gender ID and Sexual orientation so I feel my ambassadorship is critical in this competition.

I am very excited to work with like minded individuals from all over the world. It is as much about our unity as it is about the competition itself.

We all want to educate about being gay, Lesbian, transgender and bisexual. We all want to show how it is to be open…

We want 2012 to be on African continent and I hope we can bring it here,

Africa is important for us to bring it here in 2012 because LGBTI  are considered criminals in 37 countries just because of the love – and as you said Mel, we are not hurti9ng anyone else. Science teaches us that one is  born gay or lesbian – why should everyone not enjoy the human right of being who they were born to be.  The African continent must learn that …. So we must bring attention here.

Francois Nel

MEL: SO What would you say to David Bahati  - the author of the kill the Gays bill:

(FN: haha now you start….)

Mel: where he says  “ homosexuality is not a human right and we are a sovereign country and you cant tell us how to make our rules”: how would you answer him?

FN : My immediate response would be that having lived my life I know I was born this way and that any other human who is gay has clearly also been born that way. That person who loves a person of the same sex in no way impinges upon or hurts anyone else.  I  feel as the human race -  we need to embrace the LOVE that exists in the world – regardless of who it is between, whether a man and a man or a woman and a woman – or a man and a woman it is all life and we are all human. The fact that someone can be persecuted for that , or land up in prison because of it, is a problem and definitely hurts the right of the human love. One can never justify such persecution..

MEL: And his answer to that (you see I am kinda preparing you for Manila to (we both laugh).. … “gays have come to Uganda to the schools recruiting our children to become gay – that is how he would answer you – you are speaking from your personal experience and I can relate because mine is the same – but that is what he would say and he says it like he believes it even though despite being asked he has no proof. Your response:

FN: I know people are born gay – its not possible what he says – especially children how do you influence a child that way. We have studies that have been done. Some people have dedicated their lives to such studies . Look at Kingsley for example – sexuality is not as predefined as people think – there is a large spectrum  of sexuality. Evident through the centuries.  Nobody can be recruited. Studies done show that gay people whom adopt kids or have their own – those kids turn out to be completely heterosexual mostly; and I have heterosexual brothers – why are they not gay if our upbringing was exactly the same and I was never recruited.  I was never molested no such influence just my natural sexuality.

MEL:  Sex is a TINY Facet of who we are – as you said not all encompassing – do you think one can be religious and gay?

When it comes to personal belief systems you have a right to believe in whatever  you want to believe or brought up to believe – as long as it does not cause prejudice, judgment towards any minorities  or discrimination  - being part of a democracy means you can believe what you want and hence be at ease with your homosexuality.

MEL: In the  USA rise of right wing Evangelicals – separate from Christianity in general   is hard for us especially activists because they use Christianity as mask of their hate. They say Gay is an abomination as per Leviticus. My understanding is that religion mostly speaks to love, loving kindness and spirituality – that supersedes everything that is the love for fellow human. If an evangelical right winger came to you and quotes Leviticus and calls you an abomination or says your sexual acts are what is your response?

Personal space and personal freedom is something we are all entitled to. My personal space starts here (points to self) and ends here (point to an inch from me) We are in our own spaces.  People can believe what they want and follow what they want. It becomes a problem if they come into my space with their belief system. The bedroom that is my space is mine alone and \those who I invite in and it cannot hurt anyone. So do not trespasses not enter uninvited, because you may find you have entered a belief system different to your own,

We live in a beautiful world. Life expectancy is to be cherished.  We get to embrace our sexuality so we can enjoy our time here.   Doing good on earth toward your fellow human being. If we gay people embody that how can we be judged badly for it?

THANKS for wearing THE SHIRT!!!!

MEL: In USA we have DOMA – which denies us federal rights. Even if we can marry under the law of another country or a state in the USA we still cannot sponsor our foreign spouse for a green card to immigrate.   Two weeks ago President Obama gave a favorable sign about the DOMA being unconstitutional – but in USA legislation to repeal it is long and arduous. The current Congress has an antigay majority –

1. My question is – Do you think that same-sex marriage could cause harm to traditional marriage?

2.  What would you say to a Republican Congress holding us back from marriage equality?

FN: I think I would like to answer both the same – firstly to get married is a human right for gays – but not all may want it – I am passionate about the fact that if gay people want it , then it is available equally with all the rights and obligations it confers .  At the end of the day love in its many phases for gay people is exactly the same as it is for heterosexual people.

Deny anyone a love is detrimental to society – denying love and equality in its infinite and ultimate attainment is detrimental to society.

Remember Mel our conversation the other evening about other campaigns,. We have progress I feel DADT in US shows progress. It comes back to fact that sexuality cannot harm your job – being gay is not all encompassing and we are multifaceted and dropping DADT will show that and before DADT was dropped that was the case,

MEL: Would you be willing as MR GAY WORLD or even Mr. GAY South Africa to come to USA to speak out about your all inclusive constitution and ask questions about why the USA does not have marriage equality?

FN:Yes I would be very excited to do that – like I said the journey around this competition starts with oneself. But it does not start and stop with ME.

MEL: This has been an inspiring conversation. I cannot imagine any other contestant woirthy of this title., English your second language is magnificent – and Sheez you are gorgeous.

FN: At a competition like this we are there competing BUT we are there for same reasons and you we all want to do the same work to inspire people to be who they are and for acceptance in our countries and the world. Just by being there we are all winners.

I am mostly excited that I will be working for charities that provide shelters to those who are homeless because they exiled or gay….  That will be the case no matter what.

MEL: Francois Nel you are an inspiration ….

FN: Oh Melanie thank you for inspiring me!

Tonight Francois texted me from the plane – he is on his way to Manila – his message is poignant and he tells it in a poised and assured way – with unique twists that make his message glow – he is gentle, softly spoken and yet forceful.  I will be voting for him every day … Bon Voyage my Vriend -  you are a winner no matter what!

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As athletes, we all know how great it feels to be supported. To have an unconditional support system that is there for you regardless of how you perform. The ones who hold you up and follow you around no matter where you compete. They are more supportive than you could have ever imagined. You have become accustom to having their support. In fact, it is a proven fact that female athletes perform better when they have the proper support.

So where does a gay-thlete find such reliable and relentless support systems? Within their family? Their friends? Coaches? Teammates?

No no no, Ladies! I’m talking about actual support. The kind of support we all NEED. (Well, some need it more than others.) The necessary support to keep our fun bags in place. The sports’ rendition of the over-the-shoulder-boulder-holder. The piece that keeps your girls in line. The knockers in tact. Jugs in place.

Yes, Dear, I’m talking about your bra.

Did you know that they even make special bras for the given movement? Some are designed specifically for the quick sprints and extra bounce. Others are focused on the twisting motion and lateral movement. They even have sports bras that are designed to control the figure-8 movement of the breasts! Talk about crafty!

The kind of bras women purchase is beginning to rival the importance of the shoes we wear for our sport. So, the next time you are in need of a sports bra and you see the cotton, $8.00, bright pink, uninviting version next to the brand name, 92% polyester/8% spandex, engineered-for-success bra, maybe you should ask yourself… “What would a champion choose?”

Oh, and ladies, if you are ever in need of some additional support, you know how to reach me. theunluckyfox@gmail.com

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02/17/2011- by Natasia Langfelder

NYC Council Speaker Christine Quinn sat in the front row at the Elie Tahari show last nite. Tahari also dressed Quinn for the event. For those of you not familiar with Tahari, they make really cute suits for women that you can find for reasonable prices at Macy’s. So this will not be Christine Quinn’s “Marie Antionette” moment, she didn’t go to a show that featured the kind of clothing that NYC women go bankrupt for. Page Six is reporting that everyone’s favorite lesbian Speaker sat next to “Hills” star Stephanie Pratt and Joan and Melissa Rivers.

Quinn was also invited backstage to meet the designer who thought she looked great. Doesn’t she always? Christine Quinn, breaking lesbian fashion stereotypes and making the world a better place to be.

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By Melanie Nathan – Dec 29, 2010;-  Well here are my Annuals – Heroes and Zeroes.

HEROES of The Year

1. A. The National Hero Ward goes Jointly to: President Obama, Secretary Hilary Clinton and Defense Secretary Gates. – For Extraordinary work on behalf of  Gays and Lesbians around the World and in the USA.

1. B. Ultimate Heroes of the Year:
Out of all The States of the USA:- Jointly to David Boies, Ted Olsen, attorneys – AFER’s Anti- Prop 8 Team;

2. Activists of the Year
International:
Nikolai Alekseev (Russia) For his courage to stand and stand and stand…

Millicent Gaika, for testifying in the worst conditions imaginable, against rapist Andile.

USA
Robin McGeHee… for conquering the High beam while modest and sensitive to all.
Constance McMillen…. Strongly committed to her belief in herself!
Lady Gaga….. Inviting the Most Uniformed escorts to the Grammy Awards

3. Congress
Rep. Patrick Murphy – Enduring DADT
rep. Jerry Nadler – Most passionate about EQUALITY and willing to jump through the hoop.

4. Senator of the Year:
Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand – a True Friend for Equality

5. Candidates of the Year-
All Californians because PROP 8 rests on them… and they fought so hard
Sen. Barbara Boxer – Simply thank G-d she beat the crap out of Fiorina!
Kamala Harris, Jerry Brown.

Hon Mentions:- Rep. Joe Sestak ,
Victoria Murkowski – for winning Alaska , blasting Palin, overcomming Miller’s contentious play

6. Jurists
Federal Judges- Vaugn Walker and Virginia Philips

Zeroes of the Year

This year was tough there are just to many to choose from – nonetheless managed to nail it down to the following:

1. John McCain for failing to admit he is senile- and if he is not senile then he definitely has earned this #1 Spot.

2. The Wicked Witches: stirring a cauldron mix of material hazardous to the psyche of the feeble minded. The Group includes – last names only – Bachman, Angle, Palin, and O’donnel.

3. Jeff Sessions Senator from Arkansa, – for existing

4. David Bahati, Ugandan Author of ‘Kill the Gays Bill’ Jack and Linda Klenk for hosting him in the US.

5. Clint McCance wants all “fags” to die and doesn’t mind sharing it. A school board member in Arkansas, McCance wrote inflammatory comments about gays and Spirit Day on his Facebook.  LGBT communities came down hard on this story and Clint was forced to resign.

6. For Acting – Glenn Beck – Playing  a Conservative Role, to  successfully hide his insanity

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AND MORE FUN

ULTIMATE HONORARY LESBIAN
For getting face first between Nathalie Portman’s legs, before any of us could have dreamed this as a possibility – Mila Kunis in Black Swan.

Films of the Year:

Black Swan – a Masterpiece!

Social Justice

Inside Job

ACTORS OF THE YEAR: Nathalie Portman

By Melanie Nathan
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Oh My Goodness isn’t October just wonderful? Fall is one of my very favorite seasons, not only is the fashion wonderful and comfortable but the weather is amazing, the leaves are changing and it is finally time to head to Starbucks for my delicious hot Peppermint Mocha hee hee Anyway I think it’s about time that we start discussing what’s in this Fall There are many exciting and yet comfortable looks this season to complement your glowing personalities 0:)

Feminine Expression

Okay girly girls lets start with you This fall seems to be all about the laid back but put together look, whether it be a sweater or a nice shirt with a cardigan you are going to look sexii without even trying

Hair

This Fall feel free to throw your hair up in a messy bun with some accent pieces to frame your face. With the right outfit this hairstyle can be very messy chic which is exactly what you’re looking for.

If you have curly/ wavy hair a nice relaxed high ponytail will look gorgeous or even just give it a quick blow dry and let your hair down. There is no need for that flat iron this season ladies

For my girls with naturally straight hair a loose side ponytail will look just gorgeous or even a low messy side bun will be just perfect

I put together some example outfits for you that are fun and very sexxi to give you some ideas of this falls fashion do’s hee hee

Example one

In this example we have a fabulous Forever 21 sweater, which is not only very affordable but looks amazing matched with a pair of American Eagle dark skinny jeans and black flats. The look is casual but trendy, great for going to school, the library or even out with the girls for some shopping and Apple Bee’s 0:)

Example 2

In example 2 we have an American Eagle black cardigan with a white lace cami, American eagle ripped skinny jeans and black suede flat boots. This look is considered a dressed up casual. It’s the perfect combo for a date with your lady. Whether it be to your favorite cozy restaurant or out to play pool this look will give you a sassy flirtatious flair that your lady will adore

Example 3

In example 3 we have a sophisticated dressy outfit, fantastic for dinner parties and holidays. This gorgeous Wet Seal top with black leggings, complimented by white flats or black mid rise slouch boots would make any girl want to trap you underneath the mistletoe

Masculine Expression

For my masculine women I wish so much that there were a line of butch fashions for me to show you but with all of my apologies the only pictures I could find are of men. Whenever I do a makeover for a masculine woman I tell her that it is not the gender assigned to the clothing that matters but merely how the clothes make you feel and the way you look in them. You’re a strong woman who deserves to be comfortable in your wardrobe, be confident and be proud of who you are <3

Example 1

In our first example we have a handsome Aeropastale long sleeve thermal with American Eagle boot cut dark wash jeans accented with Leather DC shoes. In school, at home, out with friends this outfit says that you are confident, stylish and know how to look your best even on an ordinary week day.

Example 2

Here we have a sexier casual dress look. With the American Eagle black button down atop a white sleeveless t, Gap classic khakis and black suede DC’s you’re going to look super debonair for date night or even for a first date.  This look says put together without even trying!

Example 3

Now for an outfit you can wear to a holiday dinner or to a romantic night on the town with the gorgeous love of your life With this perfect sweater from the gap (which can be worn with the right color button down underneath) black dress pants (can also be warn with nice Khakis) from Express and black ankle Timberlands no one could resist your charming personality and romantic soul.

So for this fall it’s all about Feeling wonderful and looking fabulous doing it. This is one of my favorite fall lines and I hope you love it as much as I do O:) but I also want you ladies to remember that fashion is meant to be an accent to your Beautiful personality. It’s a way for you to express what’s inside of you, on the outside .  Wear what makes you feel comfortable, confident and Fierce <3

Fashion, Express Yourself

- KitCat



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The day after the MTV VMA’s, Lady Gaga’s Meatdress is the main topic of discussion. It’s trending on Twitter like no one’s business with fans covering the spectrum of emotions that can be raised by a Meatdress. To recap, some love it some hate it.

Cher leads the Pro-Meatdress side of things, tweeting:

Loved doing VMA’s ! Lady Gaga rocked it ! Meat Dress was So INTERESTING Up Close & The way it was cut & Fitted to her body was AMAZII …

as genius ! Back in the day it woulda been called ” A Happening !” More Later

is meant to cause Thought , Conflict & discussion

The way it was cut & fitted to her body was AMAZING ! Meat purse was genius ! As Art piece it was astonishing ! No moral Judgement ! I …

modern art elicits discussion, introspection & conflict ! Everyone’s talking about it! BINGO !

I’m inclined to agree with Cher. There was no where for Lady Gaga to go with her shocking outfits besides raw meat. I mean, how was she going to top what she was already wearing? Bloggers were already calling her outfits tired and stale, they aren’t today! However, Ellen DeGeneres is not a fan of Meatdress, probably because of the cruelty to animals and wanton violence that it seems to insinuate. The vegan talk show host radiated disapproval towards Meatdress at the premier of her talk show, driving Gaga to explain her actions. Gaga said:

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So you just finished your eye exam or arrived at the mall’s sunglasses boutique and you are now scanning the room for that perfect sexii pair of frames that compliment your face in all the right places as well as show off all of your delicious features. Your first thoughts are probably something along the lines of “So many shapes, so many colors, Where the heck do I start?!” @__@ Not to worry my dears I am going to break down this whole Glasses search into a step by step guide on how to find the perfect frames for your face.

Step 1: Find Your Face Shape

In order to find your face shape you’re going to have to be vain for a few minutes and admire your gorgeous self in the mirror hee hee. If you have long hair pull it back in a tight bun or ponytail so that you can examine the outline of your face, if you have short hair you may want to wet your hair or take a shower first to make finding your face shape a little easier.

Face Shapes

The Square Face: Mainly made up of right angles. Generally it’s as long as it is wide with a prominent jaw line and broad cheekbones giving a square like appearance.

The Oval Face: For the most part is exceptionally proportional, with a chin that is only slightly narrower than the forehead and typically has a higher cheekbone structure.

The Heart Face: Tends to be broader on top with a wide forehead and cheekbones that taper down to a narrow chin.

The Round Face: Has beautiful full cheeks and tends to be as long as it is wide. No prominent angles and is made up of curvilinear lines.

The Oblong Face: Narrow shape that’s longer than it is wide. Angular features with high cheekbones

The Triangle Face: Has a narrow forehead that widens at the cheeks and chin.

The Diamond Face: Is small/ narrow at the forehead and chin with high dramatic cheekbones.

Now ladies if your face doesn’t seem to dramatically fit one of these face shapes figure out where your wide points are and find the shape you think is the best fit

Step 2: Finding what works for your face

Now that we know what shape our faces are we need to know what frame shapes work for us. We want our Glasses to compliment our best features after all J and our glasses should play against our facial contours. For example if your face is on the boxie side you would be best staying away from a hard lined rectangle frame, Instead something rounded at the bottom will soften up the angles of the face giving it a smoother appearance and taking away attention from the jaw line. Same thing with colors, If you have brown eyes it may be best not to pick frames that match your eye color instead choose a color that will compliment your eyes like going a shade lighter.

Square Faces

Glasses: We want our glasses to contrast the features of our faces. So for my ladies with gorgeous square shaped faces you’ll be looking for frames that soften those strong sexii angles, giving a little bit of a round appearance to those straight lines.

What Works

• Curved bottom rims
• Bold upper edges divert attention away from chin and jaw line
• Round or Oval frame
• Curved narrow styles
• Subtle rimless frames with soft edges add contrast and visual interest to a strong, square face

What to Avoid

• Flat / straight bottoms will mirror the image of the face giving it a harsher appearance.
• Thick square/rectangle frames make square faces look boxie

Sunglasses: Much like with eye glasses when you pick your fabulous sunwear you’re looking for frames that soften your jaw line and compliment your amazing features. Following the guidelines for glasses with a few add-ons will lead you to the perfect movie star sunglasses <3

What Works

• Big Fabulous slightly rounded / round frames seem to be a perfect fit
• A nice thin frame with rounded bottom rims
• Lenses that fade from dark at the top to light at the bottom help down play a strong jaw line
• Frames that have more width than depth
• Aviators

What to Avoid

• Square/rectangle Frames

Oval Faces

Glasses: Lucky for my Oval ladies you have a wide variety of frames and styles to choose from, Because of your proportionate faces almost every frame is The Frame for you.

What Works

• Most
• It is recommended to look for frames which are wider (or as wide as) the broadest part of your face.

What to Avoid

• People with oval faces often have smaller features, so make sure your frames are in proportion and don’t overpower your face
• Ultracircular Frames

Sunglasses: Anything you find Fabulous should do just fine

What Works

• Same as Eye Glasses

What to Avoid

• None

Heart Faces

Glasses: My wonderful heart shaped girlies have interesting proportions, we’re looking to down play the wide forehead and narrow chin so we want to contrast with frames that even out those heart shaped features.

What Works

• Butterfly / Cat’s eye
• Rimless
• Round

What to Avoid

• Frames that are dramatic or decorative at the top of the frame
• Wide tops with thinner bottoms

Sunglasses: Sunglasses for my heart shaped chicas should be like the eyeglasses, draw attention away from the narrow chin and wide forehead.

What Works

• Softly Curved
• Wrap arounds
• Rounded upper corners
• Square bottoms
• Aviators

What to Avoid

• Circular
• Square frames

Round Faces

Glasses: Round face lezzies want their glasses to give their face a longer, slimmer appearance. Round faces have very soft curves and few angles and since a balanced face is always best we’re looking for angular frames to sharpen and add definition.

What Works

• Inclined Frames (butterfly, Cat eye)
• Rectangle Frames
• On the narrower side
• Angular
• Bold Frames

What to Avoid

• Circular
• Frames that are more vertical than horizontal
• Rimless

Sunglasses: Rounded faces are looking for sunglasses that will make the face appear thinner and less circular.

What Works

• Big Rectangles/squares
• Bold frames
• Decorative temple pieces
• Straight top with curved bottoms

What to Avoid

• Circular
• Thin frames
• Rimless

Oblong Faces

Glasses: oblong faces are much like an extended oval. If you have an oblong face you’re looking for you glasses to give your face a slightly shorter appearance as well as add a little width.

What Works

• Tall Vertical Frames
• Broad
• Accented tops
• Decorative temple pieces

What to Avoid

• Small Horizontal Frames
• Short Frames
• Narrow Rims

Sunglasses: For your sunglasses you’re going to want frames that fill the center of your face by down playing the length.

What Works

• Deep Frames
• Embellishments on temple pieces

What to Avoid

• Frames that extend the widest part of the face
• Short
• Narrow
• Small

Triangle Faces

Glasses: If you’re one of my triangle faces girls you’re going to want your glasses to deemphasize your wide chin and narrow forehead. Finding a frame that gives the top of your face some width and making the jaw line narrow out would be ideal.

What Works

• Square
• Cat Eyes
• Metal Frames with rimless bottoms
• Thin Rimmed Frames
• Semi-rimless
• Bottom frame angled inward

What to Avoid

• Narrow out of proportion frames
• Low-set temple pieces

Sunglasses: Your sunglass criteria are going to be the same as with your eyeglasses. You’re looking to Widen the forehead and soften the jaw line.

What Works

• Thick Square Frames
• Semi-rimless

What to Avoid

• Over sized sunglasses

Diamond Faces

Glasses: For diamond lesbians we want our glasses to highlight the cheekbone structure and enhance the eyes. The frames should draw more attention to our Gorgeous eyes and avert attention from the thin forehead and jawline. It’s all about proportions so you’ll be looking to balance all of your fabulous features and bring them together to make the perfect smart and sexxi look.

What Works

• Square
• Curved Bottom Frame
• Slightly curved
• Softly curved square
• Rimless
• Decorative / Dramatic top frame

What to Avoid

• Frames that are wider than cheekbones
• Narrow Frames

Sunglasses: When it comes to sunglasses diamond ladies are looking for a frame to fill the center of the face and soften the cheekbones, drawing attention away from the harsh contour of a diamond face. Not too over whelming but a delicate balance to even out that facial scale

What Works

• Oval Sunglasses
• Curved bottoms
• Aviators
• Rimless
• Softly Curved Square Frames
• Ray Bands
• Decorative Top Frame

What to Avoid

• Frames that are wider than the broadest parts of your face

Following these guidelines should make finding the perfect pair of shades or sexii specs way more fun and manageable then going in unprepared and it’s always a good idea to go shopping for these hard to buy items with your very best friends!! Get lots of opinions and make sure that you’re comfortable with your decision always remember ladies that the most important part of any fashionable look is being confident. No matter what frames you decide to buy make sure they make you feel like the super star that you are. Good Luck Girlies!!

Love,

KitCat
Fashion, Express yourself <3

One Tree Hill star and Chad Michael Murry ex Sophia Bush is boycotting Urban Outfitters. Bush is upset over a shirt the company is selling that says “Eat Less,” the actress is outraged that they would promote anorexia so blatantly. Bush wrote an open letter to the store to raise awareness of the problem.

“I have been a supporter of your store for many years, but now I’m through.”

“I am fortunate enough to star on a wonderful TV show called One Tree Hill. I play a fashion designer named Brooke Davis, who started a campaign on the show called “Zero Is Not A Size” and the outpouring of love and gratitude that came my way from girls and women ALL OVER THE WORLD (sic) who have body image issues brought me to tears.”

“To promote starvation? To promote anorexia, which leads to heart disease, bone density loss, and a slew of other health problems, not least of all psychological issues that NEVER go away? Shame on you. I will no longer be shopping at your stores. And I will encourage the tens of thousands of female supporters I have to do the same. I have fought to boycott BP. I never imagined I would also be boycotting affordable fashion.”

“You should issue a public apology, and make a hefty donation to a women’s organisation that supports those stricken with eating disorders. I am sickened that anyone, on any board, in your gigantic company would have voted ‘yes’ on such a thing, let alone enough of you to manufacture an item with such a hurtful message. It’s like handing a suicidal person a loaded gun. You should know better.”

“I sincerely hope that next time you decide that making fun of serious issues is comedic, or ‘snarky in a cool way’, that you re-think your decision.”

[Source]

Due to the controversy, Urban Outfitters has removed the shirt from their website and hopefully, from their stores. This is not the first time Bush has shown her socially responsible side, she recently visited the Gulf Coast to survey the damage done by the BP Oil Spill and help raise awareness and donations to the clean up efforts. How awesome is she? I’m totally down to boycott Urban Outfitters. I had no plans to wear a lace bra top or tee shirts with ironic sentiments on it this summer anyway

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Take Note America

Locally businesses in D.C. are taking note;  of the fact that gay and lesbian couples are coming in droves to D.C. to marry.  From wedding ring collections to wedding planners, the market is set to explode, according to Forbes Magazine from $70 Billion per year by another $16 Billion.

D.C. Marriage office currently has a waiting list to June 2010.

Gay couples should have these rights in all the STATES of the USA.  Just think what the other States are missing out on.  Only 5 States and D.C. currently allow Gay marriage

This Video is a great reflection – This type of  industry boost is critically important to note because the more one sees of two women in bridal gowns atop a cake, the more acceptable that visual will become to mainstream America.

Mazeltov D.C.

4-20-10- Melanie Nathan; The Women’s Conference® community is a global network of women who gather every year at the nation’s premier forum for women, hosted by California First Lady Maria Shriver and Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger. For two full days, more than 100 internationally-acclaimed leaders, visionaries, authors, journalists and artists come together with more than 25,000 women from all walks of life to be educated, inspired and empowered to be Architects of Change in their own lives, within their communities and around the world.

Beyond the annual event, The Women’s Conference community gathers daily online at www.WomensConference.org and throughout the year at events that serve, support and strengthen the larger community. The mission of The Women’s Conference is to create Architects of Change – people who see a problem and seek to create the solution, be it in their homes, their communities, their states or the world.

The Women’s Conference has become a “must attend” transformational event and full day passes sell out in record-breaking time each year. In 2009, tickets sold out in less than two hours. In response to this surging popularity and demand, The Conference expanded the event to two full days with the addition of A Day of Transformation and Night at The Village.

May 14-16:      I Can Do It! San Diego Conference

The Mind, Body & Soul Retreat featuring dozens of your favorite speakers including Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Cheryl Richardson, Joan Z. Borysenko, Ph.D., Louise L. Hay, and many more workshops ranging from health to spirituality.

• San Diego Convention Center

For more information visit www.icandoit.net or call 800-654-5126

June 9:     The Women’s Conference Press Announcement

Two weeks prior to registration, The Women’s Conference 2010 announces conference events, speakers & ticket information. Information will be available at www.womensconference.org.

June 23:    The Women’s Conference 2010 Online Ticket Registration

(Please note: Date is subject to change.)

To learn more about The Women’s Conference 2010, click HERE.

**Check out The Great Giveaway for a chance to win 2 free Special Guest Passes to The Women’s Conference 2010.

September 10-12:    Best Buddies Challenge

JOIN TEAM MARIA on a cycling adventure along the Pacific Coast Highway from Carmel to the Hearst Castle in San Simeon, which also includes an optional 5K & 3K walk. For more information, click HERE.

October 10:     Pier del Sol

JOIN US at a family festival & fundraiser for Special Olympics, Southern California

• Santa Monica Pier & Pacific Park
• 10am – 2pm

October 25-26:     The Women’s Conference 2010

The Nation’s Premier Forum for Women

• A Day of Health, Wellness & Transformation and Night at The Village – Oct. 25
• A Day of Empowerment & The Minerva Awards – Oct. 26
• Long Beach Convention Center
• To learn more about The Women’s Conference 2010, click HERE.

**Check out The Great Giveaway for a chance to win 2 free Special Guest Passes to The Women’s Conference 2010.

December 7:    Season of Giving Event – Sacramento

The Women’s Conference supports a statewide holiday food drive and tree lighting event.

• California State Capitol, Sacramento

December 14:    California Hall of Fame Event – Sacramento

To honor legendary people who embody California’s innovative spirit.

• The California Museum, Sacramento
• Visit www.californiamuseum.org

MARK YOUR CALENDARS!

The Women’s Conference 2010

October 25 & 26

Posted by Melanie Nathan

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Okay lets talk foundations. Girls are always asking me, how do you feel about this shirt? What about these pants? Does this color look good with my complexion? Those are very good questions ladies however, What about the garments that go underneath the cutest shirt you’ve ever seen in your life? Lets talk Boobies Ladies!! O:) it is estimated that around 80% of women are actually wearing the wrong size bra! This is so important girls, not only is it detrimental to your health but it can also make or break that perfect low cut top you’re so excited about sporting and for my masculine ladies the right bra with that sexii button down can make a world of difference.

Before we talk fashion lets talk about health. The majority of women don’t know that wearing the wrong bra can cause a series of health issues including chronic headaches, back pain, tingling sensation in the arms, restricted breathing, abrasions, rashes and breast pain! Oh my gosh is that not just horrible!? So wearing the wrong sized bra is not only very obviously uncomfortable but it’s also bad for your body! It’s very hard to be a sexii, vibrant and confident woman when your body is painful and unsupported. But how can you tell if you’re wearing the wrong size bra? Lucky for you girlies I’ve already made a list for you

How to tell if you’re wearing the wrong size:

• Do the ta tas fit?  If your ta tas are spilling over the top or sides of your bra then your bra is too small. You may need to go up a cup or band size.
• Does the center of your bra comfortably sit in the middle of your breastbone? The right size bra should fit snuggly and the center should rest right on your breastbone.
• Does the band on your bra ride up your back? The band of your bra should stay centered around your ribcage underneath your shoulder blades.
• Do your bra straps fall down or dig into your shoulders? If your bra straps slip down your arms then your bra may be too big or it might just be time for a new bra. Straps tend to stretch as the bra becomes worn out. You should replace your bras ideally every 4 – 6 months. If your bra straps are digging into your shoulders your bra may not be big enough to support your large breasteses.
• Does your band feel loose around your ribcage? Your band like the cups themselves should fit snuggly. When you buy a bra you should find one that is snug while fastened on the end hook. Bras stretch over time and following this rule extends the life and comfort of your bra. If it’s snug on the end hook, when it stretches you can move on to a shorter hook to make the band tighter.
• Is your bust in the right place? The right bra is supposed to support you. Your bust should be lifted and feel light on your chest. The cup should be holding up your bust and fit snuggly to your chest.

So we went through the list and lets just say you now know that you’re wearing the wrong size bra 0___0 Don’t worry ladies KitCat has you covered There are many different methods for finding your perfect bra size but remember girls that our breasts are all shaped differently so measuring to find a size does not substitute for trying on the bra. Every bra fits an individual differently. Measuring to find a size just gives you a place to start, whether or not it fits depends on how it feels to your body.  (Having someone else measure you will give you a more accurate result than measuring yourself.)

Finding your Band Size

1. Take a measuring tape and lay it flat on your skin around your rib cage directly underneath your breasts
2. Make sure the measuring tape is going straight across
3. If you end up with an odd number round up to the next even number
4. That is your band size

Finding your Cup Size

1. Take the measuring tape and wrap it around the fullest part of your bust with your bra on.
2. If your bra is too big or not supporting you, lift the straps so that your bust is where it should be while being measured.
3. Again make sure that the measuring tape lays flat and goes straight across your back and bust.
4. Take the number you get and subtract the band size. Take the difference and See Chart below for your estimated cup size

Now that we know if our bras fit lets discuss wrong bra + Fashion. Different tops require different bra styles and if you’re wearing a bra that’s too small you can end up with that ever so unflattering quadre boob interfering with your super cute outfit and if your bra isn’t supporting you it can actually make the dimensions of your waste appear bigger, visually adding weight to your mid section.

Styles

• Backless Bra – The backless bra is pretty self-explanatory, it has no back. It’s also possible to get a backless bra without straps. The backless bra works extremely well for backless and low back garments. If you’re a fan of off the shoulder tops having one of these will do wonders for your sexii look.

• Convertible Bra – The convertible bra is not only adorable but also very convenient. The straps are interchangeable to turn the bra from standard to a halter to backless to strapless! These nifty straps make the convertible bra a multiple style opportunity

• Demi Bra – The demi bra is mostly about cleavage. It’s design is made to push the breasts towards the center so create a firm showy look. The cup starts about an inch above the nipple so it’s great for low cut tops. 

• Full Cup Bra – The full cup bra is designed for women with larger breasts, it’s purpose is mainly to support. The full cup covers the whole breast in order to fully support and shape.

• Minimizer Bra – The minimizer like the full cup is for women with a larger bust, it’s purpose is to make the bust look smaller and smoother. It can also help prevent button bunching when wearing a blouse or button down.

• Push Up Bra – Unlike the minimizer the push up does just the opposite. The push up is made to give the illusion of bigger breasts it also extenuates the breast form and creates gorgeous cleavage for those sexy tops. 

• Sports Bra – Sports bras were made to reduce bounce during sporty activities, though many women wear them on the regular. Sports bras do not provide enough support to wear day in and day out, they also ware out very easily.

• Strapless Bra – Every femme should own one of these! Not only do they look great with a strapless shirt or off the shoulder sweater but also for evening wear. They really do work wonders.  For the larger breasted women like myself, these bras may be a problem. Unfortunately they don’t make them in my cup size but during prom season I found an awesome gadget called a corset bra. It uses your back and waist to support your breasts allowing you to rock that gorgeous strapless dress or shirt and they are surprisingly comfortable. Any prom or bridal store should have them

• T-Shirt Bra – The T-Shirt bra is designed to provide a smooth appearance under soft and thin materials, such as a T-shirt or sheer top. Very comfortable and sexii especially for the more masculine women. They look great under a polo or wife beater.

Although most women can find bras in any Arie, Victoria Secret or Department store women with an uncommon cup size or have a tiny rib cage with large breasts are going to have a harder time finding the right bra. Most cities have specialty stores specifically for lingerie and carry these bra sizes. Personally I like Blums on Long Island, they not only have large bust bras for girls with small rib cages but they also have specialty bathing suit tops! Do a little internet searching and I’m sure you will find a store that you will love!

Okay so before I end my Boobies rant I just want to give you a tiny tid bit of information on bra maintenance. Bras should really be hand washed and hung up to dry. They’re not cheap so you want them to last as long as possible and that is really the best way. If you do decide to wash them remember to wash on delicate and dry on air other wise you can warp the wires and ruin your perfect boobie holder So be gentle with your bras, have fun trying on and finding your perfect bra fit and remember to be comfortable being you. Please be good to your ta tas!!

Fashion, Express yourself

- KitCat

KitCat

Hey Ladies!

My name is KitCat and let me just start by saying that I am SUPER excited to be the New Fashion Writer for LezGetReal.com! Okay so you’re all probably wondering, who is this Cat? What makes her a fashionista? How can her advice / Column help me? The answer is simple . . . Because I Am AMAZING hee hee just kidding but in all seriousness I should probably tell you a little bit about myself, my personal sense of style and what my plans are for this column before I begin addressing this years do’s and don’ts of the fashion world.

Okay so about me, I am the founder of TheLesbianConfidentials.com as well as a Pre-Vet student. Being a Pre-Vet student I am a broke friendly shopper, who is really good at name brand shopping affordably. A lot of my clothes are from places like Wet Seal, American Eagle, Aeropostale and when I can afford it my hand bags come from Coach. My fashion style tends to be very Elegant, Sophisticated Chic. My expression (as I’m sure you’ve guessed by my word mannerisms) is feminine. My favorite color is pastel pink so I end up wearing at least one article of pink clothing per day. I am a whopping 4 foot 9, Very tall I know hee hee, though my friends say that I am tiny and adorable, a must have.

Being that I am so familiar with the female form , one of my many talents is knowing what style, cuts and colors work well for an individual woman. Whether your self-expression be feminine, masculine or somewhere in between I can help you find clothes, accessories and style that not only fit your personality but extenuate your unique and adorable body. I consider myself to be very well rounded in the fashion world and I’m very familiar with the ins and outs of a wide variety of styles and trends. My specialties are matching up personality with style and then conforming the style to the specific individuals body type. My wonderful perception of shape, vivid imagination and understanding of personality / gender expression make it easy for me to cater to the feminine personality as well as the masculine. It is very important for someone who is giving fashion advice to be brand and style knowledgeable with the eye to match the right clothing to the right body.

Okay so now that you have this little tidbit of information you’re probably wondering how I plan on helping. I have a few ideas, though if you have more I’d love to hear them. First I would like to help people directly, as many as possible. Whether you need a new style, all new wardrobe, you’re confused about the cuts and colors that fit your body, you’re fashionly challenged hee hee or if you just need a second opinion on an outfit for a special day, I am here to give you my undivided attention and unbiased, fashion educated opinion. Feel free to send me pictures and as much info as you can so that I can give you the most accurate opinion possible. Then of course product reviews, hair/make up tutorials, random fashion segments, Dos / don’ts and Ins/outs. Sort of a fashion opinions and advice column

Well as much as I obviously love to ramble on it’s time to bring my first segment to an end. In closing I would like all of you to remember that regardless of style, looks, brand of clothing or gender expression You are all beautiful vibrant women. Let your natural beauty and glowing personalities define who you are, you are beautiful because you are you. Nothing is more beautiful then a confident woman who loves and respects herself. People express themselves through creativity and customization, what better way to show the world who you are and what you’re about then through what you wear.

Fashion, Express yourself

- KitCat

Image by Aleksandr Slyadnev via Flickr

Hey Lezzies, Welcome back to “Ask A Femme.” I’m Natasia and I will be dishing out advice on love, dating, relationships, friendship, career, family and fashion issues. Are your friends tired of trying to come up with the solutions to your problems? Are your friends the problem? Did your mom surprise you with a date with the nice guy at her office? I’m here to help!

Dear Femme,

I’m 23 but I look like I’m no older then 15. Cause of my looks I have trouble attracting older women. I don’t wear makeup and I don’t want to change my appearance for anyone. I like myself and the way I look. Have any advice?

Not Jail Bait!

Hi NJB,

Thanks for writing in! I’m glad that you have confidence in yourself. I would never tell anyone to wear make-up or to change themselves to conform to our society’s definition of feminine. However, I get the sense from your email that you are holding yourself back a little. If you want to get the message across to women that you are of age, some kind of change will have to be made on your end.

Instead of changing your style, why don’t you try upgrading your style? If you love t-shirts, go for ones with a more vintage theme or sexier cut.  Victoria Secret has some great stretchy tanks and tees that look sexy and comfortable. If you love jeans, go for a darker wash and avoid embellishments like butterflies and flowers. Also, avoid clothing in bright, primary colors, those will make you look even younger. Have fun with it! Good Luck, NJB. I hope this helps and keep in touch.  

Dear Femme, 

I’m an Asian lesbian in my 30′s and I’ve been single for almost a year. I can’t seem to find that special woman who I feel physically and emotionally attracted too and who feels the same about me. I was always in a relationship in my 20′s and felt the need to be intimate with someone but in my 30′s. I no longer need to fullfill that sexual need. I also find it harder as I get older to find a partner. I moved to another state for a partner I trusted. But she left me for a man who was her best friend and whom I also believed was my friend. I believe lesbian relationships don’t last and have begun to feel jaded. I don’t like to feel lonely and hate sleeping alone but can’t seem to find a woman that I can feel intimate attracted too and safe with. Please help, thanks.

Azn

Hi Azn,

Thanks for writing in! There is a lot going on here. You have had a bad experience and I’m sorry for that. You placed your trust in the wrong person, changed your life for her and she betrayed you and it sucks. But you need to move on. Being single for a year isn’t the worst thing that can happen to you, it’s not even that long to be single! It seems as though you have already starting thinking about your internal needs and what you want from a partner. I’m going to suggest that you continue to learn about yourself and worry less about not having a partner. Put finding love on hold for a little while, go out and have fun. Don’t stay home and feel sorry for yourself, join a gym, take cooking or art classes, drink your coffee at a café instead of at home. While you are out doing things and learning to love being alone, the right woman will come along. But you won’t meet her if you are at home hiding under the covers and crying over someone who didn’t deserve you.  

Also, you should keep in mind that just because your former love left you for a man, not all women will do that to you. Lesbian relationships change and there is as much drama, betrayal, love, affection and longevity as there is in any relationship, gay or straight. Good Luck, Azn. I hope this helps and keep in touch.  

Have a question for me? Email askafemme@yahoo.com

  O K K I E S (ah-keez’) n.: plural of Okkie, familiar form of Oscar   – When I first arrived in New York City from South Africa, albeit an attorney , my foreign-ness made finding work near impossible.  I moved to Los Angeles and soon found myself running around the City with one of Los Angeles’ most well known celebrity stylists.  As it happens Lauren Landau Hines is my first cousin and I could not be more proud of her achievements.  She scooped me in her protective arms and I was able to help her with Janet Jackson’s Rhythm Nation, working specifically with the late great Cyd Charrise who had a cameo in one of the music videos as well as a few other exciting projects.  Lauren has since honed her skills to fill a gap (no pun intended) -  she found that there was no loose comfortable  stylish clothes for boys.

Although accomplished, Lauren is probably the single most modest person one could meet, never touting her  ‘own horn’ and it’s a big one that should be blasted loudly. There is barely an issue of People, US, OK and other tabloids that does not show a celebrity child wearing one of Lauren’s simple and recognizable  OKKIE designs.  Now Lauren tells her career story in her own words:-

The thread that repeatedly weaves its way through my life and career is, well, literally thread. Actually, it’s the cut, color and fabrication of clothing that are among my most important memories and, later, my influences.

Born in South Africa, I attended a conservative elementary school that required me to wear uniform dress – a blazer, button-down shirt, skirt, hat and tie. Freedom came at the end of the day and on weekends when I donned my favorite outfit: bright yellow cropped palazzo pants paired with a tank top. I can picture the pants clearly; I remember how they felt against my body.  

At 14, my family and I immigrated to Los Angeles, where in High School, freed from a dress code, clothing was a means of self-expression. I used my mom’s idle sewing machine to make my own clothes that broadcast my membership in the artsy crowd. I was really into upholstery fabric in high school, I made an upholstery fabric pajama outfit with gold buttons that I lived in.

After high school, I moved to New York City to attend design school. Soon my school internship turned into a full-time job: I worked as a freelance editorial stylist for Interview, Details and Face, the fashion-forward magazines of the day. My work was heavily influenced by the aesthetic of my favorite designers Issey Miyake, Yohji Yamamoto and Rei Kawakubo, whose clothing lines continue to inspire. These Japanese designers effortlessly reduce fashion to simple sophistication; it is amazing how they delineate colors using a monochromatic color palette. And their designs artfully balance practicality with playfulness, seriousness with humor. Yet their clothes don’t overwhelm, instead they enable the wearer to express his or her own personality. 

In 1987 I returned to LA to broaden my freelance stylist and costume designer career. I created costumes for music videos, concert tours and album covers, adding Janet Jackson, the Rolling Stones and Sting, to my client list. I also collaborated with television and print-ad directors styling and designing costumes for A-List commercial accounts such as Coke, Nike and Visa/MasterCard.

In 2001 I added motherhood to my resume with the birth of Hugo and, later, Oscar – nicknamed Okkie by his big brother. Watching my two young, constantly moving boys was easier than finding boy-appropriate clothing. At that time, girls had many fashion choices, boys much fewer. I struggled to find comfortable, easy-care, hip boys’ wear. Choices seemed locked into a few silhouettes merchandised in standard denims, fleeces and twills, in boy-accepted primary colors.

It was in the limited boys’ wear market that I saw opportunity. In 2005, as a natural next-step in my 20 years experience in the fashion industry, I designed and introduced OKKIES, a line of boys’ pants. With four pant silhouettes merchandised in a variety of fashion-forward colorations and menswear patterns, OKKIES debuted in five stores its first season. By fall 2006, I was designated best new designer by the online children’s clothing expert jamesgirone.com. In October 2008, Earnshaw’s national retail survey named OKKIES one of the top three best-designed collections in the boys’ wear industry. 

I am very excited to introduce my newest lifestyle-designed collection: OKKIES ‘girl’, a full line of feminine, but not frilly, interpretations of OKKIES’ best-selling silhouettes, for fall, 2009.

OKKIES girls’ wear Fall 2009 line features 16 styles in a full line silhouettes – from pants to shirts, dresses to leggings, sweaters, jackets and beanies – for size 3 months to 12 years. OKKIES boys’ wear Fall 2009 line features 19 styles – from pants to shirts, sweaters and hoodies, to beanies also for sizes 3 months to 12 years.

I have created OKKIES as a lifestyle approach to clothing – a lifestyle of ease of wear, clothing that allows them to move, stretch, run, climb and relax without restriction. For parents, that lifestyle is about comfort and more. It’s about clothes that are high-quality; that are wash-and-wear; that are appropriate for a full day of activity, going from a play date to dinner with grandma; that reflect an awareness and appreciation of fashion trends without being fussy or over done; that don’t express ‘generic kid’ but allows an individual’s personality to shine.

Up until now OKKIES have been available in over 500 specialty stores throughout the country, but moving forward, we will be offering our lifestyle approach to clothing directly to our customers on our website.

 Enjoy! go to http://okkies.com/information.php/about-i-1     You can take advantage of the online 48 hour sale – great Holiday Gifts

Posted by Melanie Nathan

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The notable trend seems to stem from the long tails flowing in the front of your blouse rather than from the back. This is a comfortable look, but also works in classy styles too. Wraps appeal to those lesbians who may be trying to hide that after-baby bulge or maybe even that after-burger bulge. Wrap tops come in tanks, short sleeve or long, but I’ve noticed that these items haven’t filled up too many clothing racks so you’ll have to keep your eyes open if you want to find a nice wrap that is just your style and budget. Wraps are not so much for the butch lesbians, but wraps work well for this lesbian femme so if you’re a feminine lesbian looking for the next trend, wrap tops are definitely it.

]]> http://lezgetreal.com/2009/03/trendspotting-wraps-for-women/feed/ 1 http://lezgetreal.com/2009/01/trendspotting-cute-kids/ http://lezgetreal.com/2009/01/trendspotting-cute-kids/#comments Sun, 18 Jan 2009 05:00:00 +0000 ~Julie Phineas~ http://lezgetreal.com/?p=819 The latest fashion trend isn’t fashionable clothing; it’s fashionable clothing for our children!

Our children are bearing witness to a hopeful time in history. It’s clear to many that the way of the future starts with our children, and you can bet that anti-gay groups are focused on advancing their agenda through their children. Having cute kids is becoming a fashion statement in these crazy times! Just look at these two cuties…

Now the Obama daughters are taking office with their father and mother; which has brought them to the forefront on many levels.

On the level of fashion, many have their eye on what the Obama family has been wearing throughout their campaign for the Presidency, elections, and pre-inauguration. Some have said that Michelle Obama is going to save women’s fashion, but now Malia & Sasha Obama are being called the First Daughters of Fashion. We have all seen children of celebrities gain visibility and set new trends for their ‘fashion sense’; but what we are seeing now is truly a new trend in itself.

Here are some cute outfits for kids, one for a little girl and one for a little boy…

I think my kids would rock these outfits for sure… cute and fashionable children overshadow the fashionable grown-ups in this new world we live in!

Julie Phineas is a work at home mom of 2 who lives in Southern California. You can find out more about her online by visiting her website at www.juliephineas.com.

As I’ve been out and about getting ready for the holidays, I’ve noticed a trend in teal!

Every winter I find myself changing my look and style as I reach for warm clothes and darker shades. Usually, I wind up with a berry tone as the base of my winter look, as I am biased to browns during the summer. Spring always brings out the color in me, and I was surprised to see teal fabrics popping up more and more on the racks even though it’s winter. Surprisingly, when I picked up some new makeup for holiday looks, I chose a 4 color eyeshadow palette with a a gold base, and teal highlight from Loreal called Out of The Blue. It really was out of the blue for my shopping cart, since I am really really prone to berries and browns.

What I’m finding though is that teal works really well for me, and it works with berry shaded lipsticks and browns too.

I picked up a teal tank too and the color is really working for me, and I’ve noticed it works for others as well. I’ve seen teal in many forms, sweaters, tanks, pantsuits, shoes, accesories. You can bet you’ll see me in teal this winter, what about you?

Julie Phineas is a work at home mom of 2 who lives in Southern California. You can find out more about her online by visiting her website at www.juliephineas.com.

AZ Together sent us out to wonderful North Scottsdale, AZ. The area happens to be Rep. Harry Mitchell (D) district so I was hoping for a good response. The response happened not to be the thing that got my attention. It was what everyone was wearing and carrying that I couldn’t stop noticing.

The first of many occurrences is the “snow boot”:

Now first of all we live in the desert and it was 75 degrees that day, but okay it is a fashion statement and they are in right now, but is it still a statement if worn with shorts and a tank top?

I was in awe over almost every purse that went in and voted and came back out with its owner. From Chanel to Louis to list was endless on the different brands of bags.

 

Jess is from Arizona, is happily married, and is a proud mom of an adorable son. For more about her check out www.2moms2kids.com.